I always speak straightly to people i know. I think if you want to have real relationships you speak the truth. Well, trouble is some people can't accept it and think I am just shooting them for fun. Well regardless it is fun or not if they can't take it I stop as soon as they tell me or show me some strong reaction.
But sometimes I go over the line too, like in conditions that involves me having bad mood or a particularly strong reaction against some things that is being discussed. For example if I am very pissed off by someone that day I may speak more sarcastically than usual. I know it's not good but every one's got their own temper isn't it? I mean when your friend suddenly bawls at you for no reason you know that something is wrong or you tell him "What the heck is wrong with you?" and most normally that person will wake up a bit from his tantrums.
But the problem with some minorities are the ones that show you that they are OK and did not tell you anything but will suddenly one day come out with the exclamation " You know what? I can't stand you anymore and YOU are not my friend anymore." while that guy don't even know that what thing that he went over the line, or in some case what's the trigger. Well as courteousness dictates we apologize first and try to find out mistakes and try to correct them. That's what people say you value relationships more than who's the right or wrong one.
But the second problem happens here as you can see, where when one party will ultimately think that they are absolutely correct and therefore the other party should either figure it out themselves or there's no need for them to do anything just because they are so damn sure that the situation is not salvageable. As the saying goes one hand can't produce a clap so what should the other party do? So they try and try until they gave up. And those who are so pure and so good in their own heart will feel that it is always their responsibility or they always have to try to save the friendship. The second type would no doubt feel very bad and will keep a grudge towards the other party because they well feel that they are toyed and good efforts wasted but the other party still treat them like scum.
So unless you have telepathy ability where you can dive into other's mind to send a message you should always tell them. Even if you do not think the other party would have listened if a person asked you nicely and is sincere in getting feedback from you I think it would be discourteous for one to just ignore them even if you would't want to have any relationship with the person after the incident.
I don't have time and patience to keep bugging you like begging for sweets nor the responsibility of entertaining you like a kid. But just so you know, the main reason human can't interact with cows is because they don't speak, and you are failing my attempt to communicate by acting just like a cow in this matter.
Hope you stop being a kid, a cow or an idiot.
Friday, 8 June 2012
Wednesday, 15 February 2012
breaking in
I am so glad but so disappointed at the same time that my feeling is so complex now.
The reason I am happy is because I finally broke in a debate competition. The last two rounds in our preliminary rounds are good, we managed to debate at a much more higher level than we normally do. So we beat up two teams in a row. As we lost the first two rounds by close speaker scores, our average score is high and we made it to the quarter finals with ranking 6. Actually our speaker score is even higher than the rank 4th and 5th teams but their number of winnings are more than ours.
In quarter finals, we are debating whether we should intervene in Syria militarily. We, the government took the stance of not to do so. We built our case and defended it while our opponents tried to poke holes in it to bring it down. After the match I was quite certain we can beat them, just as my seniors thought. But when the results are announced, it was a defeat with 3-2 split. The chair gave the win to us, but 3 panels think our case failed to stand. We asked for reasons and advice from the adjudicators, and found that each of them have different prioritization. Some think the opponent don't have a stance, some think the opponent actually did poke enough holes to bring the case down.
The other 3 quarter finals ended with clear wins of 5-0, 5-0 and the most shocking of all, UMP beat UM with 4-1 clear win. So it seems that our match was the toughest and closest of all other quarter rounds. Our trainer was quite pleased because we actually nearly beat a strong team. But then, the fact is we missed the semi final round.
Maybe if we were judged by 7 or 9 adjudicators the condition will be different, but of course no one can be sure how they will judge us. I am a bit sad because I lost a great chance, but I believe the way ahead is clear. I am a first year student who has just been debating in English for six months, and I have broken into a major tournament in Malaysia. I may not be a top debater now, but I will work hard to be one.
So long girls and boys, please await a better me in the next tournament.
The reason I am happy is because I finally broke in a debate competition. The last two rounds in our preliminary rounds are good, we managed to debate at a much more higher level than we normally do. So we beat up two teams in a row. As we lost the first two rounds by close speaker scores, our average score is high and we made it to the quarter finals with ranking 6. Actually our speaker score is even higher than the rank 4th and 5th teams but their number of winnings are more than ours.
In quarter finals, we are debating whether we should intervene in Syria militarily. We, the government took the stance of not to do so. We built our case and defended it while our opponents tried to poke holes in it to bring it down. After the match I was quite certain we can beat them, just as my seniors thought. But when the results are announced, it was a defeat with 3-2 split. The chair gave the win to us, but 3 panels think our case failed to stand. We asked for reasons and advice from the adjudicators, and found that each of them have different prioritization. Some think the opponent don't have a stance, some think the opponent actually did poke enough holes to bring the case down.
The other 3 quarter finals ended with clear wins of 5-0, 5-0 and the most shocking of all, UMP beat UM with 4-1 clear win. So it seems that our match was the toughest and closest of all other quarter rounds. Our trainer was quite pleased because we actually nearly beat a strong team. But then, the fact is we missed the semi final round.
Maybe if we were judged by 7 or 9 adjudicators the condition will be different, but of course no one can be sure how they will judge us. I am a bit sad because I lost a great chance, but I believe the way ahead is clear. I am a first year student who has just been debating in English for six months, and I have broken into a major tournament in Malaysia. I may not be a top debater now, but I will work hard to be one.
So long girls and boys, please await a better me in the next tournament.
Sunday, 12 February 2012
the battle is still on
Today has been quite disappointing. Two matches. Victories are so close, yet so far.
I have never had so much desire in winning a debate. One has to perform quite well until you are confident enough to think you can win, and one has to be confident that he can win in order to feel that desire.
It's not perfect debates in those two matches, yet I felt that we have at least achieve a standard that I am quite proud of. However somehow fate is not on our side. The first debate we lost to another team with speaker score of 1 mark while less than 5 for the second match.
The only way we can break is to win the following two rounds with a higher than average speaker score. But yet our battle is still on! As long as there is any chances, I won't give up. Even if there's no chances I won't give up either! I love debate, and I may not be as well as those who debates in English language for a longer time, but my fire of spirit continues to burn brightly no matters what.
I have never had so much desire in winning a debate. One has to perform quite well until you are confident enough to think you can win, and one has to be confident that he can win in order to feel that desire.
It's not perfect debates in those two matches, yet I felt that we have at least achieve a standard that I am quite proud of. However somehow fate is not on our side. The first debate we lost to another team with speaker score of 1 mark while less than 5 for the second match.
The only way we can break is to win the following two rounds with a higher than average speaker score. But yet our battle is still on! As long as there is any chances, I won't give up. Even if there's no chances I won't give up either! I love debate, and I may not be as well as those who debates in English language for a longer time, but my fire of spirit continues to burn brightly no matters what.
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