I always speak straightly to people i know. I think if you want to have real relationships you speak the truth. Well, trouble is some people can't accept it and think I am just shooting them for fun. Well regardless it is fun or not if they can't take it I stop as soon as they tell me or show me some strong reaction.
But sometimes I go over the line too, like in conditions that involves me having bad mood or a particularly strong reaction against some things that is being discussed. For example if I am very pissed off by someone that day I may speak more sarcastically than usual. I know it's not good but every one's got their own temper isn't it? I mean when your friend suddenly bawls at you for no reason you know that something is wrong or you tell him "What the heck is wrong with you?" and most normally that person will wake up a bit from his tantrums.
But the problem with some minorities are the ones that show you that they are OK and did not tell you anything but will suddenly one day come out with the exclamation " You know what? I can't stand you anymore and YOU are not my friend anymore." while that guy don't even know that what thing that he went over the line, or in some case what's the trigger. Well as courteousness dictates we apologize first and try to find out mistakes and try to correct them. That's what people say you value relationships more than who's the right or wrong one.
But the second problem happens here as you can see, where when one party will ultimately think that they are absolutely correct and therefore the other party should either figure it out themselves or there's no need for them to do anything just because they are so damn sure that the situation is not salvageable. As the saying goes one hand can't produce a clap so what should the other party do? So they try and try until they gave up. And those who are so pure and so good in their own heart will feel that it is always their responsibility or they always have to try to save the friendship. The second type would no doubt feel very bad and will keep a grudge towards the other party because they well feel that they are toyed and good efforts wasted but the other party still treat them like scum.
So unless you have telepathy ability where you can dive into other's mind to send a message you should always tell them. Even if you do not think the other party would have listened if a person asked you nicely and is sincere in getting feedback from you I think it would be discourteous for one to just ignore them even if you would't want to have any relationship with the person after the incident.
I don't have time and patience to keep bugging you like begging for sweets nor the responsibility of entertaining you like a kid. But just so you know, the main reason human can't interact with cows is because they don't speak, and you are failing my attempt to communicate by acting just like a cow in this matter.
Hope you stop being a kid, a cow or an idiot.
