Not people's fault

I just read a saying that I agree with wholeheartedly. "When you feel the sight of seeing someone is annoying, it is actually your mental state which is not good enough."

How many times have an argument or even fight started from people who does not see each other eye to eye? How many times have you just walk down the street, saw a fellow and felt annoyed by just the sight of him? How many times have people choose not to give chance because they feel that that person should be punished, since I don't like his looks?

In life, we are all hoping to live happily, but realize that living happily is not possible to achieve by living alone. Humans live in societies, and we have to mingle around others each day. How can we live happily when we always found dislike and hatred in each other? How can we live happily if we are always unhappy about other people?

In Buddha's teaching, the highest level state of mental one can reach is not to feel angry however way you are provoked. Although we cannot expect everyone to reach such level, at least we can stop making conclusions about other people based on first sight. However bad you feel about the person's outer image he is portraying, the true nature he has maybe completely different from what you think. Often we will find evil or kindness at the place we least expected it.

It won't be people's fault if we feel annoyed by their appearance. It won't be your surrounding's fault if you feel that the place make you moody and sad. Human wants to be the controller and regulator in many things, but often they forget that the true controller is the one who can control his mind. A positive mind views everything in a positive light, which further encouraged innovative actions which yield good results. How can we blame people around us to be the source of our failures?

The next time you feel annoyed by sights of people you dislike, think of your own faults and confront your own mind. Is this feeling of annoyance people's fault?

No, it is actually a defect of  your own mental state. So don't feel unhappy then! =D