There's always time you have to do something. Sometimes it's the people around you who forces you to do it, sometimes it's the surrounding that forces you and sometimes it's you who forces you to do it yourself. They can be things you don't like, things you find annoying and exhausting or things that requires a long and continuous effort which you don't really feel up to the challenge. Nevertheless, sometimes they are something that need to be done.
I read and heard from many times in all sorts of books and people I encounter in my life that it's things like that which make you stronger. It's things like that which make one's life meaningful. It's things like that which give you the ability to stand up again and again in difficult conditions. Even though if one know that he will fail, he still needs to try and give his best shot. If he do not, then he either feels regret or keep failing when facing similar situations in the future.
So what if you are facing tough competitions? So what if the chance to succeed is scarce? What if it requires you making lots of efforts? So what if it requires you to be patient and keep doing it for a long time? So what if after all that, you can still fail?
The fact is, chickening out just because you are afraid of losing or just prefer a easier path is pathetic! I don't deny that something can be achieved by trying different methods, like people say you have lots of ways to earn money. But if something is your passion, something you can't replace it, or something you only have one chance to get, then choosing not to try is choosing to be a coward.
If something were needed to be done, then do it before people around you start forcing you. If something were needed to be done, then do it before the environment start forcing you. If there's something you really want to do, then do it before the regret is stuck in your mind forever.
Because that's something to be done too.
Friday, 28 October 2011
Sunday, 16 October 2011
Just Try, No Regrets
I am ashamed of having thoughts to give up before I even tried. It's just a flash, but it still should not appear nevertheless. Things are supposed to happen in some way, but if you don't try then they are only supposed to fail. Of course there are things which you may fail after giving it your best shot, but if it's important to you then you still need to try it!
How do you know what's important to you? The answer's actually very simple. Put yourself in a situation where you may lose something. If that's the thing you truly want, then surely you will feel the pain of loss. I don't mean the pain you experienced like you misplaced your money. The true pain of loss makes you uncomfortable all time long, it's like you are robbed of something really important to you. You may be resting, but the thought of missing something will come flowing in. You maybe busy, but still you will easily find things that will remind you of that particular thing, again and again!
That's why people say if you can't make up your mind, toss a coin. When the coin is being tossed into the air, you are actually conscious that you may get one choice or the other, so it also means you have chance to lose either of them. So our mind automatically compares the feeling of losing one of the thing to the other, and you will suddenly realize at that moment that which thing you dread losing the most. You will then get the answer regardless of what results the coin throw may be.
Even though you are completely sure that you want something, you are always able to turn on your back and ignore it. Every passion dies if left without any tending, and so does emotion and feeling. Sometimes we feel that something is very hard to achieve and we tell ourselves: never mind, I think I will just give up. The question will not be whether we will be able to give up or not, but whether we will regret this decision.
To me, cutting away our dreams and beliefs is similar to cutting away part of our soul. We dream of something, yet we stay apart from it. This will make us feel some part of us are missing in the future. We may never tell anyone, but the regret's still there although may differ in intensity.
That's why I believe one should just try if that's what his heart wants. Even if you fail, you won't regret. While one can choose more easier path, I still choose to try.
Because I don't want to regret not trying it now in the future.
How do you know what's important to you? The answer's actually very simple. Put yourself in a situation where you may lose something. If that's the thing you truly want, then surely you will feel the pain of loss. I don't mean the pain you experienced like you misplaced your money. The true pain of loss makes you uncomfortable all time long, it's like you are robbed of something really important to you. You may be resting, but the thought of missing something will come flowing in. You maybe busy, but still you will easily find things that will remind you of that particular thing, again and again!
That's why people say if you can't make up your mind, toss a coin. When the coin is being tossed into the air, you are actually conscious that you may get one choice or the other, so it also means you have chance to lose either of them. So our mind automatically compares the feeling of losing one of the thing to the other, and you will suddenly realize at that moment that which thing you dread losing the most. You will then get the answer regardless of what results the coin throw may be.
Even though you are completely sure that you want something, you are always able to turn on your back and ignore it. Every passion dies if left without any tending, and so does emotion and feeling. Sometimes we feel that something is very hard to achieve and we tell ourselves: never mind, I think I will just give up. The question will not be whether we will be able to give up or not, but whether we will regret this decision.
To me, cutting away our dreams and beliefs is similar to cutting away part of our soul. We dream of something, yet we stay apart from it. This will make us feel some part of us are missing in the future. We may never tell anyone, but the regret's still there although may differ in intensity.
That's why I believe one should just try if that's what his heart wants. Even if you fail, you won't regret. While one can choose more easier path, I still choose to try.
Because I don't want to regret not trying it now in the future.
One bad habit
I was told it is just a habit. I was told that it will fade after time if I just leave it. I was told I will think differently if I was to continue acting normally like last time.
Of course things fade if you stop trying, stop practicing and stop giving it attention. It may take weeks, or maybe years, or maybe more than that, but the thing's for sure is it will fade.
But how the hell do I have the chance to be normal again? The NORMAL which is defined by you all anyway. Being a stranger? I don't think so. Even I can ignore when I meet, or even purposely get of of the way, the heart inside me is under torture. It's screaming at me so loud that sometimes I wonder whether it will break.
And that's this: habit. Why on earth is a habit paining me like nothing else? I have been a video gamer since seven years old, and yet I don't feel such a withdrawal symptoms before. Every sight or word that could have been related to the habit make me suffocate, make me wanna scream out in agony.
Yet to preserve something I treasured I said it was just a habit. I told people that it's okay, I realized it now. It's just a habit, I will get over it, no big deal.
But it's not working either, it seems that I am still losing it all the same....
Sometimes I question myself whether this "habit" will worn out or when it will as excruciating pain penetrate my heart like a dagger.
Then I swallow my tears and tell myself: "No big deal, it's just a habit."
Although I know better.
Of course things fade if you stop trying, stop practicing and stop giving it attention. It may take weeks, or maybe years, or maybe more than that, but the thing's for sure is it will fade.
But how the hell do I have the chance to be normal again? The NORMAL which is defined by you all anyway. Being a stranger? I don't think so. Even I can ignore when I meet, or even purposely get of of the way, the heart inside me is under torture. It's screaming at me so loud that sometimes I wonder whether it will break.
And that's this: habit. Why on earth is a habit paining me like nothing else? I have been a video gamer since seven years old, and yet I don't feel such a withdrawal symptoms before. Every sight or word that could have been related to the habit make me suffocate, make me wanna scream out in agony.
Yet to preserve something I treasured I said it was just a habit. I told people that it's okay, I realized it now. It's just a habit, I will get over it, no big deal.
But it's not working either, it seems that I am still losing it all the same....
Sometimes I question myself whether this "habit" will worn out or when it will as excruciating pain penetrate my heart like a dagger.
Then I swallow my tears and tell myself: "No big deal, it's just a habit."
Although I know better.
Thursday, 6 October 2011
Not people's fault
I just read a saying that I agree with wholeheartedly. "When you feel the sight of seeing someone is annoying, it is actually your mental state which is not good enough."
How many times have an argument or even fight started from people who does not see each other eye to eye? How many times have you just walk down the street, saw a fellow and felt annoyed by just the sight of him? How many times have people choose not to give chance because they feel that that person should be punished, since I don't like his looks?
In life, we are all hoping to live happily, but realize that living happily is not possible to achieve by living alone. Humans live in societies, and we have to mingle around others each day. How can we live happily when we always found dislike and hatred in each other? How can we live happily if we are always unhappy about other people?
In Buddha's teaching, the highest level state of mental one can reach is not to feel angry however way you are provoked. Although we cannot expect everyone to reach such level, at least we can stop making conclusions about other people based on first sight. However bad you feel about the person's outer image he is portraying, the true nature he has maybe completely different from what you think. Often we will find evil or kindness at the place we least expected it.
It won't be people's fault if we feel annoyed by their appearance. It won't be your surrounding's fault if you feel that the place make you moody and sad. Human wants to be the controller and regulator in many things, but often they forget that the true controller is the one who can control his mind. A positive mind views everything in a positive light, which further encouraged innovative actions which yield good results. How can we blame people around us to be the source of our failures?
The next time you feel annoyed by sights of people you dislike, think of your own faults and confront your own mind. Is this feeling of annoyance people's fault?
No, it is actually a defect of your own mental state. So don't feel unhappy then! =D
How many times have an argument or even fight started from people who does not see each other eye to eye? How many times have you just walk down the street, saw a fellow and felt annoyed by just the sight of him? How many times have people choose not to give chance because they feel that that person should be punished, since I don't like his looks?
In life, we are all hoping to live happily, but realize that living happily is not possible to achieve by living alone. Humans live in societies, and we have to mingle around others each day. How can we live happily when we always found dislike and hatred in each other? How can we live happily if we are always unhappy about other people?
In Buddha's teaching, the highest level state of mental one can reach is not to feel angry however way you are provoked. Although we cannot expect everyone to reach such level, at least we can stop making conclusions about other people based on first sight. However bad you feel about the person's outer image he is portraying, the true nature he has maybe completely different from what you think. Often we will find evil or kindness at the place we least expected it.
It won't be people's fault if we feel annoyed by their appearance. It won't be your surrounding's fault if you feel that the place make you moody and sad. Human wants to be the controller and regulator in many things, but often they forget that the true controller is the one who can control his mind. A positive mind views everything in a positive light, which further encouraged innovative actions which yield good results. How can we blame people around us to be the source of our failures?
The next time you feel annoyed by sights of people you dislike, think of your own faults and confront your own mind. Is this feeling of annoyance people's fault?
No, it is actually a defect of your own mental state. So don't feel unhappy then! =D
Thursday, 29 September 2011
Live on! Game on!
There's one dialogue which I remember very well from a drama which I watched not long ago: "Whatever happen you must still smile and be happy, because life goes on no matter what and does not ends at that moment."
I think many people cries and weeps when they watch a touching scene in dramas which include all the emotion outbursts and wise words being spoken, but believe me, if we were to really learn all the good values portrayed then we are already people who holds success in their fist. People always feel down and sad about their fate and encounters in life. When your friends don't want to mix with you you feel like dying. When you face some problems in studies you feel like giving up. But don't the dramas we watch every day (for some) tell us that life goes on no matter what? That the happiness of your life is based on how you view and live your life, not what you encounter? That we are supposed to see everything in a positive way so that we will feel encouraged in everything?
Some people say, life is a competition, not a game. For me, a competition can be a game, depending on your perspective. If you take each thing as a challenge which you complete for fun and try again and again if you were to fail, then you find life less stressed. If you take everything as a competition which you are supposed to be winning, then you find your life like hell. Some people says if you don't take things seriously then you won't be able to achieve good results, but the thing is can't we take games seriously? The biggest difference between games and competitions is one is for fun which the other stresses on victory, but I do not think that we should stress on victory in whatever tasks we are trying to complete. Taking something as a game means that you feel fun in doing it while only concentrates on how to become better without thinking of being the best among other people, it's actually better than competition because the real opponent in our life is always ourselves, not others. The ones who become the best are actually people who thinks of how to improve themselves everyday, not winning their opponents. It's just like two chess players, one always think of how to play better in chess while the other how to win his opponent, who do you think will be better in chess?
Life is a game which do not end unless you die, and if your are not dead you can still win this game. Winning our life's game is not becoming the best, but feeling happy. You can be at the peak of the world, but you can still feel lonely. So how do you become happy? The answer is, by thinking positively and want to be happy yourself! Some people lost everything, but they still feel happy. If you ask them why, they might tell you: "I have just lost everything, but it would be worse still if I were to lose my happiness and hope too" Life is about living, and living is about being happy! There can be no reason, yet if you want to switch you mood to happy, you will be able to do it. The same thing may make one person sad but the other happy clearly showing us that it's our mind that decide what kind of life we want to live!
It's true that we may be lost sometimes in life, and it's true that sometimes we feel disappointed. But whenever we are ready to live on and game on, hope will never leave us! When hope never leaves you, then so do happiness. So whatever happens, remember:
Live on! Game on!
I think many people cries and weeps when they watch a touching scene in dramas which include all the emotion outbursts and wise words being spoken, but believe me, if we were to really learn all the good values portrayed then we are already people who holds success in their fist. People always feel down and sad about their fate and encounters in life. When your friends don't want to mix with you you feel like dying. When you face some problems in studies you feel like giving up. But don't the dramas we watch every day (for some) tell us that life goes on no matter what? That the happiness of your life is based on how you view and live your life, not what you encounter? That we are supposed to see everything in a positive way so that we will feel encouraged in everything?
Some people say, life is a competition, not a game. For me, a competition can be a game, depending on your perspective. If you take each thing as a challenge which you complete for fun and try again and again if you were to fail, then you find life less stressed. If you take everything as a competition which you are supposed to be winning, then you find your life like hell. Some people says if you don't take things seriously then you won't be able to achieve good results, but the thing is can't we take games seriously? The biggest difference between games and competitions is one is for fun which the other stresses on victory, but I do not think that we should stress on victory in whatever tasks we are trying to complete. Taking something as a game means that you feel fun in doing it while only concentrates on how to become better without thinking of being the best among other people, it's actually better than competition because the real opponent in our life is always ourselves, not others. The ones who become the best are actually people who thinks of how to improve themselves everyday, not winning their opponents. It's just like two chess players, one always think of how to play better in chess while the other how to win his opponent, who do you think will be better in chess?
Life is a game which do not end unless you die, and if your are not dead you can still win this game. Winning our life's game is not becoming the best, but feeling happy. You can be at the peak of the world, but you can still feel lonely. So how do you become happy? The answer is, by thinking positively and want to be happy yourself! Some people lost everything, but they still feel happy. If you ask them why, they might tell you: "I have just lost everything, but it would be worse still if I were to lose my happiness and hope too" Life is about living, and living is about being happy! There can be no reason, yet if you want to switch you mood to happy, you will be able to do it. The same thing may make one person sad but the other happy clearly showing us that it's our mind that decide what kind of life we want to live!
It's true that we may be lost sometimes in life, and it's true that sometimes we feel disappointed. But whenever we are ready to live on and game on, hope will never leave us! When hope never leaves you, then so do happiness. So whatever happens, remember:
Live on! Game on!
Monday, 26 September 2011
Rule number 2: Total control
I have failed again and again in keeping my temper. As a result, sometimes actions which are not appropriate or words that do not suit the place and time pop out. Sometimes temper does not only mean anger, but also happiness, excitement and impatience.
To change is the best way. To start to change is the action that I must carry out. To be consistent is the attitude I must have to ensure my target is reached.
I have read and heard from many sources that the real control is not to force yourself to bear with unhappiness, but is not to feel unhappy at all however bad the condition may be. The real control is not only controlling yourself from doing things or saying words which will bring bad effects to the people around you when you are too happy, but not to reach the state of over-happy at all. The real control is not to refrain yourself from showing that you are impatient, but not to feel impatient at all.
The true control must be to able to wipe any feeling of giving up although you have failed in something and feel a bit down or disappointed. It must also enable you to pursue your target steadily, not with a heart burning too hot which may dominate your head, but also not with a heart so cold that it can't generate any energy at all. It gives you the ability to love, but at the same time does not cause you to have the wish to take for yourself.
To work on myself is the first step to be liked by others, to smile happily on your own face needs a happy heart. To develop the true good self is more important than a good image, to chase your dreams and love but do so with a pure heart.
So, I think I should start now. At this instant. I have dreams to chase, I have love to find, but if I keep fill my mind with the ugly thoughts, how do I be true and just when I am chasing my dreams and finding my love? And how I get true and meaningful success and sincere love?
I will think of good things, I will speak only good words (although I do like to tease for joke sometimes, so I think I just have to keep my joke behind the line so it does no offence). I will be true to myself, then only by doing so I will be able to find true love and happiness in life.
=) =D X-D
To change is the best way. To start to change is the action that I must carry out. To be consistent is the attitude I must have to ensure my target is reached.
I have read and heard from many sources that the real control is not to force yourself to bear with unhappiness, but is not to feel unhappy at all however bad the condition may be. The real control is not only controlling yourself from doing things or saying words which will bring bad effects to the people around you when you are too happy, but not to reach the state of over-happy at all. The real control is not to refrain yourself from showing that you are impatient, but not to feel impatient at all.
The true control must be to able to wipe any feeling of giving up although you have failed in something and feel a bit down or disappointed. It must also enable you to pursue your target steadily, not with a heart burning too hot which may dominate your head, but also not with a heart so cold that it can't generate any energy at all. It gives you the ability to love, but at the same time does not cause you to have the wish to take for yourself.
To work on myself is the first step to be liked by others, to smile happily on your own face needs a happy heart. To develop the true good self is more important than a good image, to chase your dreams and love but do so with a pure heart.
So, I think I should start now. At this instant. I have dreams to chase, I have love to find, but if I keep fill my mind with the ugly thoughts, how do I be true and just when I am chasing my dreams and finding my love? And how I get true and meaningful success and sincere love?
I will think of good things, I will speak only good words (although I do like to tease for joke sometimes, so I think I just have to keep my joke behind the line so it does no offence). I will be true to myself, then only by doing so I will be able to find true love and happiness in life.
=) =D X-D
Saturday, 17 September 2011
The feeling from the past
People often find that some places make them feel comfortable and some places uncomfortable. It is actually our physical side of our brain affecting us. But all the same, that's why one always like things that give them feeling about being home, about family. It's just the same for people you know.
Patriotic is actually born from this feeling. One is patriotic for one's country because you were born in it, you live in it and you love it. Now where does that love come from? Because your country gives you a feeling of comfort. You get used to your surroundings, you grow up in such a place, therefore you will have certain feelings for it. It gives you a feeling of comfortableness which you can't find a real reason.
Once I read a book that tells a story about a cook who is determined to make those who taste his food feel happy and contented. In his life, he conduct many experiments and researches before he found out the reason: Food that reminds someone of his happy memories will make one happy. A billionaire who used to catch fishes in sea with his father may love the taste of seaweed while a successful businessman who used to be a beggar may be touched by the taste of a steaming bowl of porridge with some slices of ginger.
In life, I have always encounter things which make me feel happy and contented, although I may only realize the reason after that. It happens when I saw little kids running around at mid autumn festival excitedly with their lanterns, or when members of a uniform team are marching round the marching court, students preparing their debate speech notes and many more. One may say that it is crucial to keep moving onward and never look back, but these pleasant memories of the past will always make you smile widely in your future.
Sometimes I feel happy with some people I barely know for several days and after that I will realize the way that person talks may be similar to someone I like or the type of people I used to mingle with. Sometimes I like some food so much although I just get to try it, and realize after that it's because it reminds me of some food I used to eat a lot when I was small. Sometimes when I see a place which resembles somewhere I miss I couldn't stop feeling happy. The feeling is so wonderful, that it can change your mood instantly although you may just encounter problems before.
I feel very grateful for these happy feelings from the past, which continue to cheer me up and give me courage to live. Although I am involved in new tasks, living in a new place and meeting new people everyday, I will always find some tasks, some places and some people that make me happy.
Don't be sad in life whatever you encounter, happiness may be just around you. =D
Patriotic is actually born from this feeling. One is patriotic for one's country because you were born in it, you live in it and you love it. Now where does that love come from? Because your country gives you a feeling of comfort. You get used to your surroundings, you grow up in such a place, therefore you will have certain feelings for it. It gives you a feeling of comfortableness which you can't find a real reason.
Once I read a book that tells a story about a cook who is determined to make those who taste his food feel happy and contented. In his life, he conduct many experiments and researches before he found out the reason: Food that reminds someone of his happy memories will make one happy. A billionaire who used to catch fishes in sea with his father may love the taste of seaweed while a successful businessman who used to be a beggar may be touched by the taste of a steaming bowl of porridge with some slices of ginger.
In life, I have always encounter things which make me feel happy and contented, although I may only realize the reason after that. It happens when I saw little kids running around at mid autumn festival excitedly with their lanterns, or when members of a uniform team are marching round the marching court, students preparing their debate speech notes and many more. One may say that it is crucial to keep moving onward and never look back, but these pleasant memories of the past will always make you smile widely in your future.
Sometimes I feel happy with some people I barely know for several days and after that I will realize the way that person talks may be similar to someone I like or the type of people I used to mingle with. Sometimes I like some food so much although I just get to try it, and realize after that it's because it reminds me of some food I used to eat a lot when I was small. Sometimes when I see a place which resembles somewhere I miss I couldn't stop feeling happy. The feeling is so wonderful, that it can change your mood instantly although you may just encounter problems before.
I feel very grateful for these happy feelings from the past, which continue to cheer me up and give me courage to live. Although I am involved in new tasks, living in a new place and meeting new people everyday, I will always find some tasks, some places and some people that make me happy.
Don't be sad in life whatever you encounter, happiness may be just around you. =D
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