It's been one month. I have been asking myself the same question. Again and again. For Thirty days.
Habit? Or something else?
Every encounter either make me feel happy for one whole day, or down for one whole day. It is my failure in controlling my emotion, or maybe I am trying to control something which is impossible to contain anyway? Like wild fire spreading and burning, just this one has unlimited fuel which constantly get refreshed again and again.
Am I hoping that the fire will go out eventually like the forest fire in Australia last time? Uncontrollable at that time, yes, but still go out after some time?
No, it does not seemed that way. Not even after one month, anyway.
I wait. I watch. I be patient.
I frust. I miss. I stress.
It's one big dose of damnation and blessing at the same time. It shows me how I am a guy who make others my center of life. It shows me how stubborn I could be in such matter. And yet with all that obstacles and seemingly impossible path, I choose to suffer, I rather suffer. Because I know there's a chance.
If I fail, it will still worth it. Because it's even more not worth it if I missed a chance to pursue something I want. And I know how badly I yearn for that one.
Sunday, 6 November 2011
Zooming in
When I was small, when I was in secondary school there's always some elders you will meet in your life who wants to teach you about what life is. They told me how I should be spending my life. They give me an analysis of which career is most suitable. They even told me what my ideal wife should look like and act like.The way they say it, you will feel that these things define your future, that the whole life of yours actually depends on your choices.
But when I grow older, I read more and I think more, I can't really agree to all this anymore. I don't think that our life's meaning depends on these general things. I feel that even if one has a good career, good wife and what people call supposedly "perfect life" you can still live like a zombie without any feeling.
While it's true that what you choose and what you do do define you as a person in whole, I think that we should zoom in further. For all we know, two person can have the same objective and the same way of doing it, maybe even equal ability. But do they gain the same results? I doubt that any two person will be completely equal in anything. Then what's wrong? What creates the difference?
It's the small things that people normally take them as unimportant that makes the difference. It's the small difference in the way you think that cause you to succeed or lose. No matter how you look at the big picture, you will eventually find that it's the small, detailed parts of the picture which make it so wonderful and so fascinating. No matter how good you are, you still need to assemble the basic elements to get the complete set of the thing you want.
It's like during the process of chasing a girl, people normally pay attention to the part where the boy confesses and the girl accepts or maybe the part where the boy flirts with the girl. But every boy flirts with the girl they are chasing, so what's so interesting with it? The part which defines the thing lies in the smallest movement, the simplest dialogue or maybe the basic feeling the boy is giving out to the people around him. Have you ever compare two pairs of couples flirting? Then maybe you will get to notice such small differences. How the tiniest, non-obvious and maybe even without the doer's realization himself or herself make every case unique.
When we continue to grow and learn more, we will eventually leave the level where we are looking at the big picture and learning the steps. We will slowly start to notice the tiniest things in our action. It's just like chess. When you become really good, it's one small difference that change everything in a game. The ones who fail to zoom in will always live in the world which the big picture is everything, and without really going deeper into anything, fail to find the true meaning of their actions. How can a basketball game become really meaningful for a player if he only play the game based on principles of the game? Of course he's going deeper and deeper both in emotional aspect and technical aspect, which will be unique compared to other players although everyone plays the same game.
For me myself, I am currently training hard to improve myself in debating skills. But the more I learn, the more tiny elements begin to pop out. I realize that achieving the basics is one thing, but if I were to evolve to become better and a true debater, I need to really zoom in and deal with those tiny elements. After all, what defines professionalism and uniqueness come from them.
The longer I wait and be patient for something that my heart yearns so much, the better I understand about myself also. I just hope by zooming in, I will be become better and redefine myself in a new light.
Because to really create a change, I need to zoom in. Because that's how I will know what I need to change, what I need to improve and what move I need to take in order to reach my target in the end.
But when I grow older, I read more and I think more, I can't really agree to all this anymore. I don't think that our life's meaning depends on these general things. I feel that even if one has a good career, good wife and what people call supposedly "perfect life" you can still live like a zombie without any feeling.
While it's true that what you choose and what you do do define you as a person in whole, I think that we should zoom in further. For all we know, two person can have the same objective and the same way of doing it, maybe even equal ability. But do they gain the same results? I doubt that any two person will be completely equal in anything. Then what's wrong? What creates the difference?
It's the small things that people normally take them as unimportant that makes the difference. It's the small difference in the way you think that cause you to succeed or lose. No matter how you look at the big picture, you will eventually find that it's the small, detailed parts of the picture which make it so wonderful and so fascinating. No matter how good you are, you still need to assemble the basic elements to get the complete set of the thing you want.
It's like during the process of chasing a girl, people normally pay attention to the part where the boy confesses and the girl accepts or maybe the part where the boy flirts with the girl. But every boy flirts with the girl they are chasing, so what's so interesting with it? The part which defines the thing lies in the smallest movement, the simplest dialogue or maybe the basic feeling the boy is giving out to the people around him. Have you ever compare two pairs of couples flirting? Then maybe you will get to notice such small differences. How the tiniest, non-obvious and maybe even without the doer's realization himself or herself make every case unique.
When we continue to grow and learn more, we will eventually leave the level where we are looking at the big picture and learning the steps. We will slowly start to notice the tiniest things in our action. It's just like chess. When you become really good, it's one small difference that change everything in a game. The ones who fail to zoom in will always live in the world which the big picture is everything, and without really going deeper into anything, fail to find the true meaning of their actions. How can a basketball game become really meaningful for a player if he only play the game based on principles of the game? Of course he's going deeper and deeper both in emotional aspect and technical aspect, which will be unique compared to other players although everyone plays the same game.
For me myself, I am currently training hard to improve myself in debating skills. But the more I learn, the more tiny elements begin to pop out. I realize that achieving the basics is one thing, but if I were to evolve to become better and a true debater, I need to really zoom in and deal with those tiny elements. After all, what defines professionalism and uniqueness come from them.
The longer I wait and be patient for something that my heart yearns so much, the better I understand about myself also. I just hope by zooming in, I will be become better and redefine myself in a new light.
Because to really create a change, I need to zoom in. Because that's how I will know what I need to change, what I need to improve and what move I need to take in order to reach my target in the end.
Wednesday, 2 November 2011
A Stranger's Sincerity
We may have heard this saying many times: It's pity not to have friends. It may be correct, but sometimes in life you may find that strangers you meet actually may bring you help you do not expect and in some case, far more valuable than things your friends can give you.
The most distinctive difference between strangers and friends are how much you know about them. You may know someone for ten years, but if you don't know anything about that person and he don't know about you either, then you can consider him as a stranger. In contrary, even if you just met someone for one day but you and that person manage to know each other very well, then he or she can be considered as your friend.
For each and everyone of us, we can have one zillion friends but our closest friends will most probably be like only a handful. When you have trouble, real trouble not simple everyday problem, the people who can help you and who most probably will help you are these closest friends. But the thing is, even closest friends become not so close after being separated for a while. You may trust one person very much, but after three years you guys don't meet and he suddenly turn up with a serious request, will you still trust him like before? I doubt that. Another thing is closest friends have their own life to live too, which means they will be there for you all the time. Even if they are willing to fly back from a zillion miles away to rescue you, I doubt whether you will be thick-faced enough to ask them to do that.
For strangers, they don't you and you don't know them, so of course you can't expect them to do some stunts to save you or help you. But if one stranger were to help you when you are in trouble, it means he or she is helping you with a pure heart. Of course this does not include people who help you to gain your money or things. The thing is, when a friend helps you, does he helps because he wants to help you, or because you are his friend? Will he still help you if you were stranger to him? Does he feel that helping a friend is his responsibility or a good deed he would have done to anyone? Try to think about that.
Maybe we can agree that some people are like that. But we must also know that between friends exist several bonds which does not form between strangers, mostly anyway. When you treat a friend bad, or when you refuse to help him on an occasion, what would happen the next time you are in trouble? Of course he's not going to help you, except he's a extremely kind people which is rare. Even if you argue that you help your friend truthfully, you cannot deny your mind will think and compare about how you and your friend treat each other. In there somewhere is the idea of gaining something, which although may only present in a tiny amount but will reduce the true sincerity of our heart.
But when we help someone we do not know, or when a stranger helps us, it's different. Why? Because you do not expect to gain something from a stranger who you meet because of coincidence. You may meet that someone today and never again in the future. Your life will hardly be affected by that stranger again. But yet you help them, or you get help from them. In such cases, the sincerity is even more purer than helping between your friends and you.
One of my friends said that she can confess about her thoughts to a stranger better than a friend. Because a stranger just appear for a brief moment and they go away, so she does not face problem facing them in the future. And when a stranger listen to you, he or she is not listening because they are afraid to offend you. They don't care anyway because you won't be one big piece in their life, you are just one people they meet and leave. When they listen is because they want to and they care.
In short, in life we will always have to face our friends, so it will be a long term relationship with them, at least many times longer compared to the ones we have with strangers. To maintain a relationship includes too many complex things which will clash with our sincerity, like balancing gaining and giving between friends. For strangers whom we may only meet for once in our life, there's no complex element in the short term relationship. We treat them as we wish to, and they treat us like they wish to, filled with sincerity. That's why when they help or they care, the heart behind this action may be much much purer than a friend's.
That's why don't be shocked that at some point in life, you may get deeply touched by a stranger's sincerity. =)
Saturday, 29 October 2011
When my mind run wild
People always say that they want a quiet environment to feel peaceful. But at most times it's a quiet environment that makes your mind wonder more wildly. This can be explained using the theory of relativity, where similarly tell us that beauty only exist because of ugly, happiness only exist because of sadness and wisdom only exist only because stupidity.
The same thing goes for our mind. We have a lot of problems in life. The time when we are really at peace is actually the things around us are in chaos. Sounds like nonsense? Not at all. When we are in a very grave condition, our mind focuses on the thing around us. We don't have many thoughts because our mind are working hard at the moment to face the current situation. But notice this: whenever we sat down and have nothing to do, or the fact that the things you are doing is not too important that it won't form a strong enough attraction for your mind, you end up thinking about a lot more things than you do during chaos. You think about your future, your desires or even sometimes flashes of thoughts which bring no meaning but still annoying all the same.
The night is a time when you mind run wilder than the rest of the time in a day. Sometimes you can't sleep, like I am now, and you find yourself sitting in front of your laptop reading people's posts on facebook without really taking in what they're posting. Your mind's running wild with all the problems you face recently and you don't really want to disturb your friends who is online at that moment. Or worse there's some problem you can't simply talk to anyone about but you wonder whether trying to access the problem or the person directly will make the situations better or worse.
You think about all the possibilities. You think about the moves you should take. You think about other live examples you have witnessed in your life. You think about whether it's worth it. Then you can't stop thinking about it anyway. All that can haunt you during the time which is the most peaceful. Because the peace outside actually helps to let you know how much trouble you have inside.
Wise people says that a kind heart recognizes no enemy, wisdom recognizes no worry. But if I were a wise person then surely I will either solve it without trouble or won't bother to feel worry.
But in this depth of night, my heart's yearning is even clearer and louder, like a giant bell sounded in silence. The missing I have sounds like thunder in my mind, hoping that someone would hear it.
Run wild! Run free! Carry my thoughts and care like a slow, cool breeze. Into the dream of it's master who is always missed. Go!
Midnight, that's when my mind run wild.
The same thing goes for our mind. We have a lot of problems in life. The time when we are really at peace is actually the things around us are in chaos. Sounds like nonsense? Not at all. When we are in a very grave condition, our mind focuses on the thing around us. We don't have many thoughts because our mind are working hard at the moment to face the current situation. But notice this: whenever we sat down and have nothing to do, or the fact that the things you are doing is not too important that it won't form a strong enough attraction for your mind, you end up thinking about a lot more things than you do during chaos. You think about your future, your desires or even sometimes flashes of thoughts which bring no meaning but still annoying all the same.
The night is a time when you mind run wilder than the rest of the time in a day. Sometimes you can't sleep, like I am now, and you find yourself sitting in front of your laptop reading people's posts on facebook without really taking in what they're posting. Your mind's running wild with all the problems you face recently and you don't really want to disturb your friends who is online at that moment. Or worse there's some problem you can't simply talk to anyone about but you wonder whether trying to access the problem or the person directly will make the situations better or worse.
You think about all the possibilities. You think about the moves you should take. You think about other live examples you have witnessed in your life. You think about whether it's worth it. Then you can't stop thinking about it anyway. All that can haunt you during the time which is the most peaceful. Because the peace outside actually helps to let you know how much trouble you have inside.
Wise people says that a kind heart recognizes no enemy, wisdom recognizes no worry. But if I were a wise person then surely I will either solve it without trouble or won't bother to feel worry.
But in this depth of night, my heart's yearning is even clearer and louder, like a giant bell sounded in silence. The missing I have sounds like thunder in my mind, hoping that someone would hear it.
Run wild! Run free! Carry my thoughts and care like a slow, cool breeze. Into the dream of it's master who is always missed. Go!
Midnight, that's when my mind run wild.
Friday, 28 October 2011
Something to be done
There's always time you have to do something. Sometimes it's the people around you who forces you to do it, sometimes it's the surrounding that forces you and sometimes it's you who forces you to do it yourself. They can be things you don't like, things you find annoying and exhausting or things that requires a long and continuous effort which you don't really feel up to the challenge. Nevertheless, sometimes they are something that need to be done.
I read and heard from many times in all sorts of books and people I encounter in my life that it's things like that which make you stronger. It's things like that which make one's life meaningful. It's things like that which give you the ability to stand up again and again in difficult conditions. Even though if one know that he will fail, he still needs to try and give his best shot. If he do not, then he either feels regret or keep failing when facing similar situations in the future.
So what if you are facing tough competitions? So what if the chance to succeed is scarce? What if it requires you making lots of efforts? So what if it requires you to be patient and keep doing it for a long time? So what if after all that, you can still fail?
The fact is, chickening out just because you are afraid of losing or just prefer a easier path is pathetic! I don't deny that something can be achieved by trying different methods, like people say you have lots of ways to earn money. But if something is your passion, something you can't replace it, or something you only have one chance to get, then choosing not to try is choosing to be a coward.
If something were needed to be done, then do it before people around you start forcing you. If something were needed to be done, then do it before the environment start forcing you. If there's something you really want to do, then do it before the regret is stuck in your mind forever.
Because that's something to be done too.
I read and heard from many times in all sorts of books and people I encounter in my life that it's things like that which make you stronger. It's things like that which make one's life meaningful. It's things like that which give you the ability to stand up again and again in difficult conditions. Even though if one know that he will fail, he still needs to try and give his best shot. If he do not, then he either feels regret or keep failing when facing similar situations in the future.
So what if you are facing tough competitions? So what if the chance to succeed is scarce? What if it requires you making lots of efforts? So what if it requires you to be patient and keep doing it for a long time? So what if after all that, you can still fail?
The fact is, chickening out just because you are afraid of losing or just prefer a easier path is pathetic! I don't deny that something can be achieved by trying different methods, like people say you have lots of ways to earn money. But if something is your passion, something you can't replace it, or something you only have one chance to get, then choosing not to try is choosing to be a coward.
If something were needed to be done, then do it before people around you start forcing you. If something were needed to be done, then do it before the environment start forcing you. If there's something you really want to do, then do it before the regret is stuck in your mind forever.
Because that's something to be done too.
Sunday, 16 October 2011
Just Try, No Regrets
I am ashamed of having thoughts to give up before I even tried. It's just a flash, but it still should not appear nevertheless. Things are supposed to happen in some way, but if you don't try then they are only supposed to fail. Of course there are things which you may fail after giving it your best shot, but if it's important to you then you still need to try it!
How do you know what's important to you? The answer's actually very simple. Put yourself in a situation where you may lose something. If that's the thing you truly want, then surely you will feel the pain of loss. I don't mean the pain you experienced like you misplaced your money. The true pain of loss makes you uncomfortable all time long, it's like you are robbed of something really important to you. You may be resting, but the thought of missing something will come flowing in. You maybe busy, but still you will easily find things that will remind you of that particular thing, again and again!
That's why people say if you can't make up your mind, toss a coin. When the coin is being tossed into the air, you are actually conscious that you may get one choice or the other, so it also means you have chance to lose either of them. So our mind automatically compares the feeling of losing one of the thing to the other, and you will suddenly realize at that moment that which thing you dread losing the most. You will then get the answer regardless of what results the coin throw may be.
Even though you are completely sure that you want something, you are always able to turn on your back and ignore it. Every passion dies if left without any tending, and so does emotion and feeling. Sometimes we feel that something is very hard to achieve and we tell ourselves: never mind, I think I will just give up. The question will not be whether we will be able to give up or not, but whether we will regret this decision.
To me, cutting away our dreams and beliefs is similar to cutting away part of our soul. We dream of something, yet we stay apart from it. This will make us feel some part of us are missing in the future. We may never tell anyone, but the regret's still there although may differ in intensity.
That's why I believe one should just try if that's what his heart wants. Even if you fail, you won't regret. While one can choose more easier path, I still choose to try.
Because I don't want to regret not trying it now in the future.
How do you know what's important to you? The answer's actually very simple. Put yourself in a situation where you may lose something. If that's the thing you truly want, then surely you will feel the pain of loss. I don't mean the pain you experienced like you misplaced your money. The true pain of loss makes you uncomfortable all time long, it's like you are robbed of something really important to you. You may be resting, but the thought of missing something will come flowing in. You maybe busy, but still you will easily find things that will remind you of that particular thing, again and again!
That's why people say if you can't make up your mind, toss a coin. When the coin is being tossed into the air, you are actually conscious that you may get one choice or the other, so it also means you have chance to lose either of them. So our mind automatically compares the feeling of losing one of the thing to the other, and you will suddenly realize at that moment that which thing you dread losing the most. You will then get the answer regardless of what results the coin throw may be.
Even though you are completely sure that you want something, you are always able to turn on your back and ignore it. Every passion dies if left without any tending, and so does emotion and feeling. Sometimes we feel that something is very hard to achieve and we tell ourselves: never mind, I think I will just give up. The question will not be whether we will be able to give up or not, but whether we will regret this decision.
To me, cutting away our dreams and beliefs is similar to cutting away part of our soul. We dream of something, yet we stay apart from it. This will make us feel some part of us are missing in the future. We may never tell anyone, but the regret's still there although may differ in intensity.
That's why I believe one should just try if that's what his heart wants. Even if you fail, you won't regret. While one can choose more easier path, I still choose to try.
Because I don't want to regret not trying it now in the future.
One bad habit
I was told it is just a habit. I was told that it will fade after time if I just leave it. I was told I will think differently if I was to continue acting normally like last time.
Of course things fade if you stop trying, stop practicing and stop giving it attention. It may take weeks, or maybe years, or maybe more than that, but the thing's for sure is it will fade.
But how the hell do I have the chance to be normal again? The NORMAL which is defined by you all anyway. Being a stranger? I don't think so. Even I can ignore when I meet, or even purposely get of of the way, the heart inside me is under torture. It's screaming at me so loud that sometimes I wonder whether it will break.
And that's this: habit. Why on earth is a habit paining me like nothing else? I have been a video gamer since seven years old, and yet I don't feel such a withdrawal symptoms before. Every sight or word that could have been related to the habit make me suffocate, make me wanna scream out in agony.
Yet to preserve something I treasured I said it was just a habit. I told people that it's okay, I realized it now. It's just a habit, I will get over it, no big deal.
But it's not working either, it seems that I am still losing it all the same....
Sometimes I question myself whether this "habit" will worn out or when it will as excruciating pain penetrate my heart like a dagger.
Then I swallow my tears and tell myself: "No big deal, it's just a habit."
Although I know better.
Of course things fade if you stop trying, stop practicing and stop giving it attention. It may take weeks, or maybe years, or maybe more than that, but the thing's for sure is it will fade.
But how the hell do I have the chance to be normal again? The NORMAL which is defined by you all anyway. Being a stranger? I don't think so. Even I can ignore when I meet, or even purposely get of of the way, the heart inside me is under torture. It's screaming at me so loud that sometimes I wonder whether it will break.
And that's this: habit. Why on earth is a habit paining me like nothing else? I have been a video gamer since seven years old, and yet I don't feel such a withdrawal symptoms before. Every sight or word that could have been related to the habit make me suffocate, make me wanna scream out in agony.
Yet to preserve something I treasured I said it was just a habit. I told people that it's okay, I realized it now. It's just a habit, I will get over it, no big deal.
But it's not working either, it seems that I am still losing it all the same....
Sometimes I question myself whether this "habit" will worn out or when it will as excruciating pain penetrate my heart like a dagger.
Then I swallow my tears and tell myself: "No big deal, it's just a habit."
Although I know better.
Thursday, 6 October 2011
Not people's fault
I just read a saying that I agree with wholeheartedly. "When you feel the sight of seeing someone is annoying, it is actually your mental state which is not good enough."
How many times have an argument or even fight started from people who does not see each other eye to eye? How many times have you just walk down the street, saw a fellow and felt annoyed by just the sight of him? How many times have people choose not to give chance because they feel that that person should be punished, since I don't like his looks?
In life, we are all hoping to live happily, but realize that living happily is not possible to achieve by living alone. Humans live in societies, and we have to mingle around others each day. How can we live happily when we always found dislike and hatred in each other? How can we live happily if we are always unhappy about other people?
In Buddha's teaching, the highest level state of mental one can reach is not to feel angry however way you are provoked. Although we cannot expect everyone to reach such level, at least we can stop making conclusions about other people based on first sight. However bad you feel about the person's outer image he is portraying, the true nature he has maybe completely different from what you think. Often we will find evil or kindness at the place we least expected it.
It won't be people's fault if we feel annoyed by their appearance. It won't be your surrounding's fault if you feel that the place make you moody and sad. Human wants to be the controller and regulator in many things, but often they forget that the true controller is the one who can control his mind. A positive mind views everything in a positive light, which further encouraged innovative actions which yield good results. How can we blame people around us to be the source of our failures?
The next time you feel annoyed by sights of people you dislike, think of your own faults and confront your own mind. Is this feeling of annoyance people's fault?
No, it is actually a defect of your own mental state. So don't feel unhappy then! =D
How many times have an argument or even fight started from people who does not see each other eye to eye? How many times have you just walk down the street, saw a fellow and felt annoyed by just the sight of him? How many times have people choose not to give chance because they feel that that person should be punished, since I don't like his looks?
In life, we are all hoping to live happily, but realize that living happily is not possible to achieve by living alone. Humans live in societies, and we have to mingle around others each day. How can we live happily when we always found dislike and hatred in each other? How can we live happily if we are always unhappy about other people?
In Buddha's teaching, the highest level state of mental one can reach is not to feel angry however way you are provoked. Although we cannot expect everyone to reach such level, at least we can stop making conclusions about other people based on first sight. However bad you feel about the person's outer image he is portraying, the true nature he has maybe completely different from what you think. Often we will find evil or kindness at the place we least expected it.
It won't be people's fault if we feel annoyed by their appearance. It won't be your surrounding's fault if you feel that the place make you moody and sad. Human wants to be the controller and regulator in many things, but often they forget that the true controller is the one who can control his mind. A positive mind views everything in a positive light, which further encouraged innovative actions which yield good results. How can we blame people around us to be the source of our failures?
The next time you feel annoyed by sights of people you dislike, think of your own faults and confront your own mind. Is this feeling of annoyance people's fault?
No, it is actually a defect of your own mental state. So don't feel unhappy then! =D
Thursday, 29 September 2011
Live on! Game on!
There's one dialogue which I remember very well from a drama which I watched not long ago: "Whatever happen you must still smile and be happy, because life goes on no matter what and does not ends at that moment."
I think many people cries and weeps when they watch a touching scene in dramas which include all the emotion outbursts and wise words being spoken, but believe me, if we were to really learn all the good values portrayed then we are already people who holds success in their fist. People always feel down and sad about their fate and encounters in life. When your friends don't want to mix with you you feel like dying. When you face some problems in studies you feel like giving up. But don't the dramas we watch every day (for some) tell us that life goes on no matter what? That the happiness of your life is based on how you view and live your life, not what you encounter? That we are supposed to see everything in a positive way so that we will feel encouraged in everything?
Some people say, life is a competition, not a game. For me, a competition can be a game, depending on your perspective. If you take each thing as a challenge which you complete for fun and try again and again if you were to fail, then you find life less stressed. If you take everything as a competition which you are supposed to be winning, then you find your life like hell. Some people says if you don't take things seriously then you won't be able to achieve good results, but the thing is can't we take games seriously? The biggest difference between games and competitions is one is for fun which the other stresses on victory, but I do not think that we should stress on victory in whatever tasks we are trying to complete. Taking something as a game means that you feel fun in doing it while only concentrates on how to become better without thinking of being the best among other people, it's actually better than competition because the real opponent in our life is always ourselves, not others. The ones who become the best are actually people who thinks of how to improve themselves everyday, not winning their opponents. It's just like two chess players, one always think of how to play better in chess while the other how to win his opponent, who do you think will be better in chess?
Life is a game which do not end unless you die, and if your are not dead you can still win this game. Winning our life's game is not becoming the best, but feeling happy. You can be at the peak of the world, but you can still feel lonely. So how do you become happy? The answer is, by thinking positively and want to be happy yourself! Some people lost everything, but they still feel happy. If you ask them why, they might tell you: "I have just lost everything, but it would be worse still if I were to lose my happiness and hope too" Life is about living, and living is about being happy! There can be no reason, yet if you want to switch you mood to happy, you will be able to do it. The same thing may make one person sad but the other happy clearly showing us that it's our mind that decide what kind of life we want to live!
It's true that we may be lost sometimes in life, and it's true that sometimes we feel disappointed. But whenever we are ready to live on and game on, hope will never leave us! When hope never leaves you, then so do happiness. So whatever happens, remember:
Live on! Game on!
I think many people cries and weeps when they watch a touching scene in dramas which include all the emotion outbursts and wise words being spoken, but believe me, if we were to really learn all the good values portrayed then we are already people who holds success in their fist. People always feel down and sad about their fate and encounters in life. When your friends don't want to mix with you you feel like dying. When you face some problems in studies you feel like giving up. But don't the dramas we watch every day (for some) tell us that life goes on no matter what? That the happiness of your life is based on how you view and live your life, not what you encounter? That we are supposed to see everything in a positive way so that we will feel encouraged in everything?
Some people say, life is a competition, not a game. For me, a competition can be a game, depending on your perspective. If you take each thing as a challenge which you complete for fun and try again and again if you were to fail, then you find life less stressed. If you take everything as a competition which you are supposed to be winning, then you find your life like hell. Some people says if you don't take things seriously then you won't be able to achieve good results, but the thing is can't we take games seriously? The biggest difference between games and competitions is one is for fun which the other stresses on victory, but I do not think that we should stress on victory in whatever tasks we are trying to complete. Taking something as a game means that you feel fun in doing it while only concentrates on how to become better without thinking of being the best among other people, it's actually better than competition because the real opponent in our life is always ourselves, not others. The ones who become the best are actually people who thinks of how to improve themselves everyday, not winning their opponents. It's just like two chess players, one always think of how to play better in chess while the other how to win his opponent, who do you think will be better in chess?
Life is a game which do not end unless you die, and if your are not dead you can still win this game. Winning our life's game is not becoming the best, but feeling happy. You can be at the peak of the world, but you can still feel lonely. So how do you become happy? The answer is, by thinking positively and want to be happy yourself! Some people lost everything, but they still feel happy. If you ask them why, they might tell you: "I have just lost everything, but it would be worse still if I were to lose my happiness and hope too" Life is about living, and living is about being happy! There can be no reason, yet if you want to switch you mood to happy, you will be able to do it. The same thing may make one person sad but the other happy clearly showing us that it's our mind that decide what kind of life we want to live!
It's true that we may be lost sometimes in life, and it's true that sometimes we feel disappointed. But whenever we are ready to live on and game on, hope will never leave us! When hope never leaves you, then so do happiness. So whatever happens, remember:
Live on! Game on!
Monday, 26 September 2011
Rule number 2: Total control
I have failed again and again in keeping my temper. As a result, sometimes actions which are not appropriate or words that do not suit the place and time pop out. Sometimes temper does not only mean anger, but also happiness, excitement and impatience.
To change is the best way. To start to change is the action that I must carry out. To be consistent is the attitude I must have to ensure my target is reached.
I have read and heard from many sources that the real control is not to force yourself to bear with unhappiness, but is not to feel unhappy at all however bad the condition may be. The real control is not only controlling yourself from doing things or saying words which will bring bad effects to the people around you when you are too happy, but not to reach the state of over-happy at all. The real control is not to refrain yourself from showing that you are impatient, but not to feel impatient at all.
The true control must be to able to wipe any feeling of giving up although you have failed in something and feel a bit down or disappointed. It must also enable you to pursue your target steadily, not with a heart burning too hot which may dominate your head, but also not with a heart so cold that it can't generate any energy at all. It gives you the ability to love, but at the same time does not cause you to have the wish to take for yourself.
To work on myself is the first step to be liked by others, to smile happily on your own face needs a happy heart. To develop the true good self is more important than a good image, to chase your dreams and love but do so with a pure heart.
So, I think I should start now. At this instant. I have dreams to chase, I have love to find, but if I keep fill my mind with the ugly thoughts, how do I be true and just when I am chasing my dreams and finding my love? And how I get true and meaningful success and sincere love?
I will think of good things, I will speak only good words (although I do like to tease for joke sometimes, so I think I just have to keep my joke behind the line so it does no offence). I will be true to myself, then only by doing so I will be able to find true love and happiness in life.
=) =D X-D
To change is the best way. To start to change is the action that I must carry out. To be consistent is the attitude I must have to ensure my target is reached.
I have read and heard from many sources that the real control is not to force yourself to bear with unhappiness, but is not to feel unhappy at all however bad the condition may be. The real control is not only controlling yourself from doing things or saying words which will bring bad effects to the people around you when you are too happy, but not to reach the state of over-happy at all. The real control is not to refrain yourself from showing that you are impatient, but not to feel impatient at all.
The true control must be to able to wipe any feeling of giving up although you have failed in something and feel a bit down or disappointed. It must also enable you to pursue your target steadily, not with a heart burning too hot which may dominate your head, but also not with a heart so cold that it can't generate any energy at all. It gives you the ability to love, but at the same time does not cause you to have the wish to take for yourself.
To work on myself is the first step to be liked by others, to smile happily on your own face needs a happy heart. To develop the true good self is more important than a good image, to chase your dreams and love but do so with a pure heart.
So, I think I should start now. At this instant. I have dreams to chase, I have love to find, but if I keep fill my mind with the ugly thoughts, how do I be true and just when I am chasing my dreams and finding my love? And how I get true and meaningful success and sincere love?
I will think of good things, I will speak only good words (although I do like to tease for joke sometimes, so I think I just have to keep my joke behind the line so it does no offence). I will be true to myself, then only by doing so I will be able to find true love and happiness in life.
=) =D X-D
Saturday, 17 September 2011
The feeling from the past
People often find that some places make them feel comfortable and some places uncomfortable. It is actually our physical side of our brain affecting us. But all the same, that's why one always like things that give them feeling about being home, about family. It's just the same for people you know.
Patriotic is actually born from this feeling. One is patriotic for one's country because you were born in it, you live in it and you love it. Now where does that love come from? Because your country gives you a feeling of comfort. You get used to your surroundings, you grow up in such a place, therefore you will have certain feelings for it. It gives you a feeling of comfortableness which you can't find a real reason.
Once I read a book that tells a story about a cook who is determined to make those who taste his food feel happy and contented. In his life, he conduct many experiments and researches before he found out the reason: Food that reminds someone of his happy memories will make one happy. A billionaire who used to catch fishes in sea with his father may love the taste of seaweed while a successful businessman who used to be a beggar may be touched by the taste of a steaming bowl of porridge with some slices of ginger.
In life, I have always encounter things which make me feel happy and contented, although I may only realize the reason after that. It happens when I saw little kids running around at mid autumn festival excitedly with their lanterns, or when members of a uniform team are marching round the marching court, students preparing their debate speech notes and many more. One may say that it is crucial to keep moving onward and never look back, but these pleasant memories of the past will always make you smile widely in your future.
Sometimes I feel happy with some people I barely know for several days and after that I will realize the way that person talks may be similar to someone I like or the type of people I used to mingle with. Sometimes I like some food so much although I just get to try it, and realize after that it's because it reminds me of some food I used to eat a lot when I was small. Sometimes when I see a place which resembles somewhere I miss I couldn't stop feeling happy. The feeling is so wonderful, that it can change your mood instantly although you may just encounter problems before.
I feel very grateful for these happy feelings from the past, which continue to cheer me up and give me courage to live. Although I am involved in new tasks, living in a new place and meeting new people everyday, I will always find some tasks, some places and some people that make me happy.
Don't be sad in life whatever you encounter, happiness may be just around you. =D
Patriotic is actually born from this feeling. One is patriotic for one's country because you were born in it, you live in it and you love it. Now where does that love come from? Because your country gives you a feeling of comfort. You get used to your surroundings, you grow up in such a place, therefore you will have certain feelings for it. It gives you a feeling of comfortableness which you can't find a real reason.
Once I read a book that tells a story about a cook who is determined to make those who taste his food feel happy and contented. In his life, he conduct many experiments and researches before he found out the reason: Food that reminds someone of his happy memories will make one happy. A billionaire who used to catch fishes in sea with his father may love the taste of seaweed while a successful businessman who used to be a beggar may be touched by the taste of a steaming bowl of porridge with some slices of ginger.
In life, I have always encounter things which make me feel happy and contented, although I may only realize the reason after that. It happens when I saw little kids running around at mid autumn festival excitedly with their lanterns, or when members of a uniform team are marching round the marching court, students preparing their debate speech notes and many more. One may say that it is crucial to keep moving onward and never look back, but these pleasant memories of the past will always make you smile widely in your future.
Sometimes I feel happy with some people I barely know for several days and after that I will realize the way that person talks may be similar to someone I like or the type of people I used to mingle with. Sometimes I like some food so much although I just get to try it, and realize after that it's because it reminds me of some food I used to eat a lot when I was small. Sometimes when I see a place which resembles somewhere I miss I couldn't stop feeling happy. The feeling is so wonderful, that it can change your mood instantly although you may just encounter problems before.
I feel very grateful for these happy feelings from the past, which continue to cheer me up and give me courage to live. Although I am involved in new tasks, living in a new place and meeting new people everyday, I will always find some tasks, some places and some people that make me happy.
Don't be sad in life whatever you encounter, happiness may be just around you. =D
Wednesday, 14 September 2011
Dependency
A question asked at the grand new comers welcoming ceremony trigger me to write about this topic.
If you were to give someone things for his own good, please do not give him too much. There's a Chinese saying: Giving a person a fish can fill his tummy for the day, teaching him how to fish can fill his tummy for the rest of his life. The problem is, when you are trying to teach someone who is hungry how to fish a fish, you must also give him some fishes to eat to keep him alive. The trick is to find some way to let a person become able to fish himself before he is used to get free fishes from you, but the point is it's very hard to achieve that. Plus, how that person thinks himself is also a major varying variable. Some people begs for money although they have healthy body, while others work although they are handicapped.
During the ceremony, we were given a chance to interact with our nation's national secretary who work with prime minister. The seventh person to rise and ask question ask a very stupid question, or rather, show the world how low is his thoughts (I won't mention the person's gender and race here). The question asked: Are there any guarantee that job opportunities will be given to students who graduate from this university?
The national secretary ask that person a question before he give any answer.
" Do I owe you a living? "
Although I am not expecting or counting on the government to guarantee me a job or a life, but nevertheless a bell rang somewhere in my mind. Isn't this something that happen in our everyday life? Students who do not get good results blame their teacher, workers who do not get good salary blame their bosses, children who do get their favorite toys blame their parents. Even I blame other people sometimes. But thinking back, do anyone owe you anything?
Your boss owe you for the things you do for the company? Nah, even with you gone the company won't go bankrupt, if it do then your boss will surely treat you well. Your teacher have the responsibility to teach you well? Yes, I suppose a teacher do need to teach you well, but when you start to rely on teacher too much and can't put a little effort of your own you will just end up dying also, certainly not your teacher's fault.
No one owe you a living, that's how life is. When you are born from your mother's womb, she gave you life. You get a life, and how to live your life actually depends on you, not other people. Not realizing this will cause a person to depend on others and worse, think that it is right for other people to be there for you to be depended on. When we start depending on others in all kinds of stuffs, we actually get weaker and weaker. Eventually, we lose our true self, because what make you today depends on others, not yourself. Do you want a life where your existence is based on others only? In such a life where is yourself?
It's true that in many things we need to have some degree of dependency on others, like depending on your family to give you mental support. However, we should also always be prepared to face the worst and be independent when the situation needs us to become so. We need to realize that never needing or trying to be independent will certainly make us vulnerable to disaster and obstacles in future which we may have to face without depending on others around us.
Do I or anyone else owe you a living? Certainly not. Don't get used to dependency.
If you were to give someone things for his own good, please do not give him too much. There's a Chinese saying: Giving a person a fish can fill his tummy for the day, teaching him how to fish can fill his tummy for the rest of his life. The problem is, when you are trying to teach someone who is hungry how to fish a fish, you must also give him some fishes to eat to keep him alive. The trick is to find some way to let a person become able to fish himself before he is used to get free fishes from you, but the point is it's very hard to achieve that. Plus, how that person thinks himself is also a major varying variable. Some people begs for money although they have healthy body, while others work although they are handicapped.
During the ceremony, we were given a chance to interact with our nation's national secretary who work with prime minister. The seventh person to rise and ask question ask a very stupid question, or rather, show the world how low is his thoughts (I won't mention the person's gender and race here). The question asked: Are there any guarantee that job opportunities will be given to students who graduate from this university?
The national secretary ask that person a question before he give any answer.
" Do I owe you a living? "
Although I am not expecting or counting on the government to guarantee me a job or a life, but nevertheless a bell rang somewhere in my mind. Isn't this something that happen in our everyday life? Students who do not get good results blame their teacher, workers who do not get good salary blame their bosses, children who do get their favorite toys blame their parents. Even I blame other people sometimes. But thinking back, do anyone owe you anything?
Your boss owe you for the things you do for the company? Nah, even with you gone the company won't go bankrupt, if it do then your boss will surely treat you well. Your teacher have the responsibility to teach you well? Yes, I suppose a teacher do need to teach you well, but when you start to rely on teacher too much and can't put a little effort of your own you will just end up dying also, certainly not your teacher's fault.
No one owe you a living, that's how life is. When you are born from your mother's womb, she gave you life. You get a life, and how to live your life actually depends on you, not other people. Not realizing this will cause a person to depend on others and worse, think that it is right for other people to be there for you to be depended on. When we start depending on others in all kinds of stuffs, we actually get weaker and weaker. Eventually, we lose our true self, because what make you today depends on others, not yourself. Do you want a life where your existence is based on others only? In such a life where is yourself?
It's true that in many things we need to have some degree of dependency on others, like depending on your family to give you mental support. However, we should also always be prepared to face the worst and be independent when the situation needs us to become so. We need to realize that never needing or trying to be independent will certainly make us vulnerable to disaster and obstacles in future which we may have to face without depending on others around us.
Do I or anyone else owe you a living? Certainly not. Don't get used to dependency.
Sunday, 4 September 2011
断绝杂念
很多现代人爱挂在嘴边的一句话是“心情低落”，或所谓的“emo”（emotional简写）。时不时就可以在谈话中听见和在面子书看见。左一句，右一句，慢慢习惯成自然，仿佛心情不好就非要大声告诉大家不可：“我EMO啦！”根据心理学家作出的调查，青少年当中面临心理问题的总人数占10到15个百分比。资料也显示有20个百分比的青少年在成为成人前会经历过心理问题。每五个青少年就有一个会面对心理问题，而且这百分比还随着时间不断增加。
虽然说今天的青少年来自各方面压力会比以往的青少年来的更大，但是无论是什么心理问题都是在我们的脑海里发生的。一个心念可以使你越陷越深，但换一个角度去想却能让你得到正面力量。但是要把坏的念头，担忧和烦恼统统转成好的思想却谈何容易。
想要把坏思想转换成好思想之间还有一个时常被人忽略的环节：断绝杂念。
脑中烦恼事烦不完，烦不完就会影响思路，更难转换成正面思想。因此，应当停止不必要的担心，将事情略做出安排后就该斩断多余的思考。举个例子：今天一个学生要选择要读的科目却此次无法做出决定。所以他应该做的就是专注在自己适合从事什么行业去想就行了。如果他一边又想父母决定，一边又想朋友选择，同时又想以后赚的钱多不多，他不烦死才怪。想东西要抓住要点，不要同时想两三样东西，这样才能想得冷静理智又避免浪费时间。
当我们同时面对连接而来的问题时，应该专注在最重要的问题。将精神集中克服一个问题不仅让我们有机会更全面地去看待各个问题，还能让自己压力减低。为什么呢？因为我们的大脑也需要欺骗。当你告诉它只需要解决一个问题时，大脑会操作的较轻松和集中。反观若同时间把不同的问题摆在它前面，一开始就会让我们大脑紧张，进而在数个问题之间来回思考，无法集中，最后降低解决问题的能力。
除此之外，我们时时都有一些我们无法掌控的东西在影响我们的生活。做了准备后，就要将顾虑除去。既然知道无法掌控，但许多人还是烦恼不断，杞人忧天。试问，当脑里烦个不停时，眼前的局面，你能专心应付吗？为了还远在天边的事却误了摆在眼前东西，这多么愚蠢呀！
要摆脱无边无界的烦恼，就要专注精神活在当下。正在溜走的那一秒钟不懂得保握却浮沉在各种杂念之中，万万不会享受到生活的意义。
至于要如何抓住要点，分别轻重而断绝其他杂念就要靠当事者本身的智慧了。=）
虽然说今天的青少年来自各方面压力会比以往的青少年来的更大，但是无论是什么心理问题都是在我们的脑海里发生的。一个心念可以使你越陷越深，但换一个角度去想却能让你得到正面力量。但是要把坏的念头，担忧和烦恼统统转成好的思想却谈何容易。
想要把坏思想转换成好思想之间还有一个时常被人忽略的环节：断绝杂念。
脑中烦恼事烦不完，烦不完就会影响思路，更难转换成正面思想。因此，应当停止不必要的担心，将事情略做出安排后就该斩断多余的思考。举个例子：今天一个学生要选择要读的科目却此次无法做出决定。所以他应该做的就是专注在自己适合从事什么行业去想就行了。如果他一边又想父母决定，一边又想朋友选择，同时又想以后赚的钱多不多，他不烦死才怪。想东西要抓住要点，不要同时想两三样东西，这样才能想得冷静理智又避免浪费时间。
当我们同时面对连接而来的问题时，应该专注在最重要的问题。将精神集中克服一个问题不仅让我们有机会更全面地去看待各个问题，还能让自己压力减低。为什么呢？因为我们的大脑也需要欺骗。当你告诉它只需要解决一个问题时，大脑会操作的较轻松和集中。反观若同时间把不同的问题摆在它前面，一开始就会让我们大脑紧张，进而在数个问题之间来回思考，无法集中，最后降低解决问题的能力。
除此之外，我们时时都有一些我们无法掌控的东西在影响我们的生活。做了准备后，就要将顾虑除去。既然知道无法掌控，但许多人还是烦恼不断，杞人忧天。试问，当脑里烦个不停时，眼前的局面，你能专心应付吗？为了还远在天边的事却误了摆在眼前东西，这多么愚蠢呀！
要摆脱无边无界的烦恼，就要专注精神活在当下。正在溜走的那一秒钟不懂得保握却浮沉在各种杂念之中，万万不会享受到生活的意义。
至于要如何抓住要点，分别轻重而断绝其他杂念就要靠当事者本身的智慧了。=）
Saturday, 3 September 2011
Leave an escape route
Many people would have heard this saying: Don't mess with people with nothing, because they could have done anything since they have nothing to lose. This saying tells us people who already lost almost everything or has nothing important at stake will have no doubt in doing something to change their depressed condition. Thinking of this saying, I remember this type of incident happen a lot in history and our daily lives.
I am not teaching you to make enemies, but in life one will face many competitions, either formal and informal. Facing people who threatens you in any aspect will be similar as facing your enemy, and need to be tackled strategically to reduce trouble or even better, to solve the conflict. The trick to choose the correct way is to choose the way that will reduce your damage received to minimum. For example, if you can win a fight without loosing anything but only cost your enemy a little bit damage, it is still advisable compared to destroying your enemy completely but sustaining heavy loss.
If you were to read "The Art Of War" by Sun Tzi, you will find a saying: When surrounding your enemy to attack them, leave a escape route for them. Do not surround them completely. Do you know why? Let's picture the situation to find the answer.
In this scenario, there's nowhere to run for the red gang. So the blue gang got them cornered properly. Now, who knows what will happen?
Naturally, because the red ones have no place to escape, their only choice is to fight. In this case, the red ones will most probably deal heavy damage to the blue ones although the blue ones will win in the end due to their greater number.
If there is an escape route, then the situation will differ greatly. The red ones will be concentrate on escaping as they realize that there's no chance of winning. So, the blue ones can enjoy an easy task finishing off those who can't escape in time, with the advantage of attacking from the back of enemies who are escaping and sustaining almost no loss. Maybe a few enemies will escape, but you still gain a huge victory with no casualties. What's more, you will also be more confident to face future battles since your army's strength is not reduced.
Sun Tzi said: In any fights, being able to stop one's enemy's attack by not sacrificing anything is the best strategy. Isn't that right? In life, not losing is also a part of winning. If you gain a lot after a heavy cost, then maybe it's hardly worth it.
So, remember to leave an escape route for your enemy when you already gain victory. It's not being sympathetic, it's to lose less, and to lose less means to have more. As shown above, allowing your enemy the chance to escape will prevent them from fighting back with all they have.
In modern society, maybe the competition you will be facing won't be resulting in death. But still, as a Chinese saying goes: Provide others with a chance to move down the stage without further embarrassment.
Although you have won, your opponent will still be grateful for your action, what's more is you may gain a friend to aid you in future.
So the next time you are sure to win already, leave an escape route for your enemy. =)
Tuesday, 30 August 2011
没事是好事，难事也是好事
什么是好事，什么是坏事？
下了好几天的雨后，一件事让我有感而发。
在开斋节来临前，老天下了好几天大雨。说实在，这雨下得有些邪门。一个星期前，天气热得要命，半夜降临温度计的“血压”还是很高，竟然达到三十度以上。一两年前这种温度是在太阳在头顶上放肆，我们都躺在沙发上嚷热的时候出现的。但是无端端的，半夜三更温度竟然可达到三十二摄氏，还不热得大家在床上翻来覆去，像那个热锅上的蚂蚁一样。
然后接下来有两天乌云密布，却好像在戏弄大家似的，在大家抬头盼望到脖子都快断了的时候，又散了。有时洒了几滴“童子尿”来“敷衍敷衍”。几次这样，大家都当着“狼来了”，天黑时就一句：不会下的啦~。
不过狼还真的来了。五天前，雨点在摆了三四次“虚惊进攻”，这次终于“养军千日，用兵一时”，一泄泄个痛快。连下了三天三夜的大雨从来没间断过，只是有时下小了些（休息是为了走更长远的路XD）然后再来新一轮猛攻。
下雨最头痛的就是难于出门，非常不方便。又加上游子回乡，我的故乡就像是一个小盘要塞下整十个人要吃的饭，爆满了。五分钟的路程，变成一个小时，出门坐车简直可以在车上大睡懒觉（除了司机）。再加上建路工程正在进行中，临时通的道路又不够理想，简直是雪上加霜，而且是好多好多的霜！我好不容易等到在外读书的朋友回来，却又不能去见他们了。
但是我向我妈投诉的时候，我妈静静的手对正播着新闻的电视机一指，说道：“我们有的是小风，那里现在来的是台风。我们来的是小雨，人家却在面对热带暴风雨。”
听到了这一番话，我的心里震惊极了！因为一点微不足道的小事，就心头不快。别人正面对灾难，我又凭什么申诉自己的运气不好！
我妈曾说过：“等你们长大后，就知道现在的难事是好事，而在人生中，没事就是好事。”
没事，就是没有灾难痛苦，应该感到高兴，惜福。为何要为了小事为自己增添烦恼和痛苦？
就说现在人不断看不开的爱情和物质上的不足，根本没有资格去和别人的痛苦作比较。难事，会使我们坚强，能够吃苦和不怕失败，更能进一步激发我们改善自己的状况以达到更好的生活。这不都是好事吗？
要把事事视为好事，才能发现其意义，进而发挥其用处。若把事事视为坏事，那就会事事不顺，进而使自己痛苦啊！
下了好几天的雨后，一件事让我有感而发。
在开斋节来临前，老天下了好几天大雨。说实在，这雨下得有些邪门。一个星期前，天气热得要命，半夜降临温度计的“血压”还是很高，竟然达到三十度以上。一两年前这种温度是在太阳在头顶上放肆，我们都躺在沙发上嚷热的时候出现的。但是无端端的，半夜三更温度竟然可达到三十二摄氏，还不热得大家在床上翻来覆去，像那个热锅上的蚂蚁一样。
然后接下来有两天乌云密布，却好像在戏弄大家似的，在大家抬头盼望到脖子都快断了的时候，又散了。有时洒了几滴“童子尿”来“敷衍敷衍”。几次这样，大家都当着“狼来了”，天黑时就一句：不会下的啦~。
不过狼还真的来了。五天前，雨点在摆了三四次“虚惊进攻”，这次终于“养军千日，用兵一时”，一泄泄个痛快。连下了三天三夜的大雨从来没间断过，只是有时下小了些（休息是为了走更长远的路XD）然后再来新一轮猛攻。
下雨最头痛的就是难于出门，非常不方便。又加上游子回乡，我的故乡就像是一个小盘要塞下整十个人要吃的饭，爆满了。五分钟的路程，变成一个小时，出门坐车简直可以在车上大睡懒觉（除了司机）。再加上建路工程正在进行中，临时通的道路又不够理想，简直是雪上加霜，而且是好多好多的霜！我好不容易等到在外读书的朋友回来，却又不能去见他们了。
但是我向我妈投诉的时候，我妈静静的手对正播着新闻的电视机一指，说道：“我们有的是小风，那里现在来的是台风。我们来的是小雨，人家却在面对热带暴风雨。”
听到了这一番话，我的心里震惊极了！因为一点微不足道的小事，就心头不快。别人正面对灾难，我又凭什么申诉自己的运气不好！
我妈曾说过：“等你们长大后，就知道现在的难事是好事，而在人生中，没事就是好事。”
没事，就是没有灾难痛苦，应该感到高兴，惜福。为何要为了小事为自己增添烦恼和痛苦？
就说现在人不断看不开的爱情和物质上的不足，根本没有资格去和别人的痛苦作比较。难事，会使我们坚强，能够吃苦和不怕失败，更能进一步激发我们改善自己的状况以达到更好的生活。这不都是好事吗？
要把事事视为好事，才能发现其意义，进而发挥其用处。若把事事视为坏事，那就会事事不顺，进而使自己痛苦啊！
Friday, 26 August 2011
To share for nothing
One day, I ask myself a question: Why do we share the thing on our mind on social websites?
Before I get an satisfactory answer for myself, I found an interesting article on newspaper some day after the question pop into my mind. There was headlined by "Useless Generation"
It stated that our current generation is facing serious problem related with social websites. One of the problems it told me gave me a sharp blow on my head.
"People who uses social websites today tends to become more absorbed in imaginative wellness. They shared statuses to tell people every single thing they are doing, because they thinks that they got a lot of attraction that way (like a Hollywood star, I supposed, whom people demand to know every tiny, insignificant facts about them). They also posts "exotic" sentences and famous quotes, to show people their "high-class-ness" (or how well their "chim-glish" is). Click here to know more. These action act as a fuel for their self satisfaction, but sadly in a pathetic way.
It also warns that we human who depends heavily on social websites will pay a heavy price someday. Somehow, the article seems to answer my question that troubled me for quite some time.
Do we share for the benefits of others, or for our own imaginary satisfaction? Do we gain anything in reality, or gives any contribution to the society? Do we even follow the "meaningful" sentences we post for others to see? Do we create online groups that truly lead to a place where people share their mind peacefully, or allow people to vent their feelings in the form of rude and irresponsible words that may trigger distortion and war?
I am not saying that we cannot share words we find meaningful to inspire people around you as how it inspires you. I am not saying we cannot share jokes that may cheer up your friends. But before you post , before you share, please ask yourself the reason you want to share. If somewhere deep in your souls the reason "To let me feel good by getting people's 'LIKE' or '+1' is hidden, then stop, don't do it. The action's same, but because the intention is wrong it has no meaning at all.
To share for your friends is to wish they can find the information you share useful or cheering. To share to fuel your pride, one day you will wake up realizing it's all a stupid dream, and it's just the same as to share for nothing.
It also warns that we human who depends heavily on social websites will pay a heavy price someday. Somehow, the article seems to answer my question that troubled me for quite some time.
Do we share for the benefits of others, or for our own imaginary satisfaction? Do we gain anything in reality, or gives any contribution to the society? Do we even follow the "meaningful" sentences we post for others to see? Do we create online groups that truly lead to a place where people share their mind peacefully, or allow people to vent their feelings in the form of rude and irresponsible words that may trigger distortion and war?
I am not saying that we cannot share words we find meaningful to inspire people around you as how it inspires you. I am not saying we cannot share jokes that may cheer up your friends. But before you post , before you share, please ask yourself the reason you want to share. If somewhere deep in your souls the reason "To let me feel good by getting people's 'LIKE' or '+1' is hidden, then stop, don't do it. The action's same, but because the intention is wrong it has no meaning at all.
To share for your friends is to wish they can find the information you share useful or cheering. To share to fuel your pride, one day you will wake up realizing it's all a stupid dream, and it's just the same as to share for nothing.
Saturday, 20 August 2011
Nice for a reason
In life we may have many friends. And they treat you nicely (at least in some way you appreciate). I guess that's why (s)he is your friend anyway.
There is many reasons people are being nice to you. Do you ever think about that?
Human is a type of social animal. We seek attention and care. That's the general reason why we live in groups and make friends. Besides cooperating to survive anyway.
But what kind of thoughts people have in mind when they become your friend? Do they become your friend just to seek attention and care? Or do they choose you because they are comfortable with you?
They sound no difference, but the difference's huge.
Let's check again: They become your friend to seek attention and care.
And there's this one: They become your friend because they are comfortable with your attention and care.
The first type is present everywhere and is so common that most people would have got used to it already. They are people who make friends because they don't want to be lonely. Of course you may ask: Who wants to be lonely? My answer: No one, but not everyone become your friends JUST BECAUSE they don't want to be lonely. If that's the only reason they become your friend, then you just found some bunch of friends who can leave you anytime when they are not lonely without you and have to choose between you and some guy who can offer him more attention and care. In short, welcome to the world which its people vote for personal gain above other things.
Now don't worry, there's the second type of people. The ones who become your friends because they feel comfortable with you. If they feel comfortable with you, it means they like your personality. They don't become your friend for attention and care, but for the reason they think you are a good person. These type of friend may just stick around you joining you in some activities or sometimes just a chat, and they won't show too much enthusiasm compared to the type above in pestering you with all kinds of treats, because they don't really fear for your cold shoulder. They are just being themselves, that's all. Even if you guys got separated for a few days without any communication, the next time you meet, you will still be much the same. This is the true friend.
There is a Chinese saying that I wholeheartedly agree with:
Friendship between two sincere persons is as tasteless as a glass of clear water, yet free of dirt.
Friendship between two persons who thinks more for themselves is as sweet as honey, yet may hide poison.
Why? Because sincere people become friends because they like each other, not because they want to gain from each other. Therefore their relationship may be a bit dull, but their heart is always true and just. People who make friends to gain from each other may have a more colorful and fun relationship, because they enjoy gaining from each other. But in the end they may end up selling out each other when they want to gain more or blast the other out from the competition.
There's no free lunch, therefore people won't be so nice to you without a reason. Well, it's up to you to find out the reasons and be careful of flattery and treats.
Because there is always a reason for being nice.
There is many reasons people are being nice to you. Do you ever think about that?
Human is a type of social animal. We seek attention and care. That's the general reason why we live in groups and make friends. Besides cooperating to survive anyway.
But what kind of thoughts people have in mind when they become your friend? Do they become your friend just to seek attention and care? Or do they choose you because they are comfortable with you?
They sound no difference, but the difference's huge.
Let's check again: They become your friend to seek attention and care.
And there's this one: They become your friend because they are comfortable with your attention and care.
The first type is present everywhere and is so common that most people would have got used to it already. They are people who make friends because they don't want to be lonely. Of course you may ask: Who wants to be lonely? My answer: No one, but not everyone become your friends JUST BECAUSE they don't want to be lonely. If that's the only reason they become your friend, then you just found some bunch of friends who can leave you anytime when they are not lonely without you and have to choose between you and some guy who can offer him more attention and care. In short, welcome to the world which its people vote for personal gain above other things.
Now don't worry, there's the second type of people. The ones who become your friends because they feel comfortable with you. If they feel comfortable with you, it means they like your personality. They don't become your friend for attention and care, but for the reason they think you are a good person. These type of friend may just stick around you joining you in some activities or sometimes just a chat, and they won't show too much enthusiasm compared to the type above in pestering you with all kinds of treats, because they don't really fear for your cold shoulder. They are just being themselves, that's all. Even if you guys got separated for a few days without any communication, the next time you meet, you will still be much the same. This is the true friend.
There is a Chinese saying that I wholeheartedly agree with:
Friendship between two sincere persons is as tasteless as a glass of clear water, yet free of dirt.
Friendship between two persons who thinks more for themselves is as sweet as honey, yet may hide poison.
Why? Because sincere people become friends because they like each other, not because they want to gain from each other. Therefore their relationship may be a bit dull, but their heart is always true and just. People who make friends to gain from each other may have a more colorful and fun relationship, because they enjoy gaining from each other. But in the end they may end up selling out each other when they want to gain more or blast the other out from the competition.
There's no free lunch, therefore people won't be so nice to you without a reason. Well, it's up to you to find out the reasons and be careful of flattery and treats.
Because there is always a reason for being nice.
Thursday, 18 August 2011
Keep some money, for god's sake!
Bad habit. Bad, bad habit.
And it's not just bad. It can be terrible, horrible and merciless sometimes.
Since very very long time ago, human has learned to spare things. (Not "spare me please!" kind of spare)
This "spare things" can be easily achieved by storing extra things to be used in emergency or any other more demanding situation.
Why? As any ancient, undeveloped human may tell you, because life is unpredictable. Life may be sweet at some point, but cruel at some point. You may be lucky sometimes, but bad luck appears sometimes too. Life may be about how much you can get and how comfortable you get to live, yet in many conditions, it is about how you can survive.
But how come human, who becomes cleverer as the time pass, who develops new technology beyond their ancestors' dreams, does not learned from the past? Why there is still so many people who is unable to see the problem?
The bad habit who is making human suffering every single day: NOT TO KEEP
In old days when human is still using barter system (trading by changing belongings) in businesses, it is very hard to spare. Because there is too many things to keep. If you keep dried fish, then maybe you are unable to keep dried fruits. If you keep chickens, maybe you are unable to keep goats. Why? Because you cannot keep everything, limited by energy and human ability. Plus, the transport in these days is a no-no and you can't imagine to buy anything from a place far from yours, barter system or not.
Today?
There's only one thing you have to keep....money. (Except instant noodles and instant drinks, I guess)
There is many who still keep money, but there's also a lot of people who don't.
WHY?
There's two main reason.
One, they don't think that it is necessary to keep some money.
Two, they can't stop themselves from spending the money.
I don't list here the reason "They don't know anything about keeping money" because I think any ten years old would have know about it already.
For the people who don't think it is necessary to keep money, it's either their family is so rich that they have near unlimited resources, or they are optimistic to the point of foolishness. For the second type of people, they are used to be rich before but they still can't shake off the habit of spending like a rich person or they want to show off to their friends as they feel embarrassed to show that they do not have much money.
For any kind of people above, their ending may be disastrous. Having a good income or a rich family only reduces the risk you will face of becoming poor, but the risk's still there, while not being so rich but wanting to spend like you are so rich one may end up owing the whole world money and scrapping leftovers in the bin for dinner.
To avoid that, when you earn a lot, keep some. I don't mean living like a beggar while keeping all the money you can keep, but at least be reasonable and not wasteful in spending. Keep for yourself, keep for your family, keep for your future. It's a knowledge from the past which we should not forget.
Remember, choosing to keep may save your neck in the future.
And it's not just bad. It can be terrible, horrible and merciless sometimes.
Since very very long time ago, human has learned to spare things. (Not "spare me please!" kind of spare)
This "spare things" can be easily achieved by storing extra things to be used in emergency or any other more demanding situation.
Why? As any ancient, undeveloped human may tell you, because life is unpredictable. Life may be sweet at some point, but cruel at some point. You may be lucky sometimes, but bad luck appears sometimes too. Life may be about how much you can get and how comfortable you get to live, yet in many conditions, it is about how you can survive.
But how come human, who becomes cleverer as the time pass, who develops new technology beyond their ancestors' dreams, does not learned from the past? Why there is still so many people who is unable to see the problem?
The bad habit who is making human suffering every single day: NOT TO KEEP
In old days when human is still using barter system (trading by changing belongings) in businesses, it is very hard to spare. Because there is too many things to keep. If you keep dried fish, then maybe you are unable to keep dried fruits. If you keep chickens, maybe you are unable to keep goats. Why? Because you cannot keep everything, limited by energy and human ability. Plus, the transport in these days is a no-no and you can't imagine to buy anything from a place far from yours, barter system or not.
Today?
There's only one thing you have to keep....money. (Except instant noodles and instant drinks, I guess)
There is many who still keep money, but there's also a lot of people who don't.
WHY?
There's two main reason.
One, they don't think that it is necessary to keep some money.
Two, they can't stop themselves from spending the money.
I don't list here the reason "They don't know anything about keeping money" because I think any ten years old would have know about it already.
For the people who don't think it is necessary to keep money, it's either their family is so rich that they have near unlimited resources, or they are optimistic to the point of foolishness. For the second type of people, they are used to be rich before but they still can't shake off the habit of spending like a rich person or they want to show off to their friends as they feel embarrassed to show that they do not have much money.
For any kind of people above, their ending may be disastrous. Having a good income or a rich family only reduces the risk you will face of becoming poor, but the risk's still there, while not being so rich but wanting to spend like you are so rich one may end up owing the whole world money and scrapping leftovers in the bin for dinner.
To avoid that, when you earn a lot, keep some. I don't mean living like a beggar while keeping all the money you can keep, but at least be reasonable and not wasteful in spending. Keep for yourself, keep for your family, keep for your future. It's a knowledge from the past which we should not forget.
Remember, choosing to keep may save your neck in the future.
Saturday, 13 August 2011
So It's Tradition huh
In many occasions we are required to sent gifts, either in forms of money or other types of present. From the past it's tradition for Chinese to give red packets with money inside(angpau) to their young during Chinese new year to protect them from bad events (as believed by Chinese since before).
However, as the time and era pasts, what changed the most is our thoughts. Chinese may still give red packets to their own kids to wish them good luck, but when they give red packets to other's people kids it was more like giving because they should. If other people give your children red packets and you do not return his generosity by "wishing" his child children good luck (with red packets too, of course), then people will stare at you like you are some kind of horrible people, and rush to chat about how stingy and antisocial you are behind your back.
In the past when the technology and living condition is not so good, people are not immersed in television programs and internet or computer games. So they mingle around in their society and get well with their neighbors and friends. They also always give each other things they have too much or people need because they are friendly and helpful.
Today in our modern society, we still give people things sometimes, so the tradition is still being carried on. I guess while we can say it's good that the "appearance" of this good tradition that symbolizes helpfulness and friendliness continue, the bad thing here is the true meaning of the tradition has disappeared in most cases. In most cases today, people give things to people because they have too much and want to get rid of it,not sharing good things (although if you somehow know that the person need the thing the case is different). In other occasions where they give to congratulate, people just give money today (I because money is the most important thing in our life already) in the form of red packets, and the reason they give mostly is because of "peer pressure".
Personally, I think that while human evolve and become more "modern" today, we give in too much to make way for our materialistic luxuries, and things we have given up include our true feelings for each other. Maybe it's because we don't need to depend on each other to live anymore, but this transformation slowly turns us into the kind of people who live in our own world. Slowly we began to forget this world is supposed to be everyone's together, and together we should work to make it a better place.
That is why people nowadays may think tradition is a waste and there's no real meaning to us. They are not totally wrong having this kind of thoughts. It's the era and the mind of people that changed, and although we appeared to be carrying on our ancestors' tradition in the exact way, we missed the most important thing: the spirit of the tradition. And with the spirit long gone, we are just people doing things named "tradition" like robots doing their chores, and it's anything but meaningful.
So it's tradition huh? Big deal!
If you hear your kids telling you that, it's not your kids' fault. It's your fault for not keeping the spirit alive in them.
However, as the time and era pasts, what changed the most is our thoughts. Chinese may still give red packets to their own kids to wish them good luck, but when they give red packets to other's people kids it was more like giving because they should. If other people give your children red packets and you do not return his generosity by "wishing" his child children good luck (with red packets too, of course), then people will stare at you like you are some kind of horrible people, and rush to chat about how stingy and antisocial you are behind your back.
In the past when the technology and living condition is not so good, people are not immersed in television programs and internet or computer games. So they mingle around in their society and get well with their neighbors and friends. They also always give each other things they have too much or people need because they are friendly and helpful.
Today in our modern society, we still give people things sometimes, so the tradition is still being carried on. I guess while we can say it's good that the "appearance" of this good tradition that symbolizes helpfulness and friendliness continue, the bad thing here is the true meaning of the tradition has disappeared in most cases. In most cases today, people give things to people because they have too much and want to get rid of it,not sharing good things (although if you somehow know that the person need the thing the case is different). In other occasions where they give to congratulate, people just give money today (I because money is the most important thing in our life already) in the form of red packets, and the reason they give mostly is because of "peer pressure".
Personally, I think that while human evolve and become more "modern" today, we give in too much to make way for our materialistic luxuries, and things we have given up include our true feelings for each other. Maybe it's because we don't need to depend on each other to live anymore, but this transformation slowly turns us into the kind of people who live in our own world. Slowly we began to forget this world is supposed to be everyone's together, and together we should work to make it a better place.
That is why people nowadays may think tradition is a waste and there's no real meaning to us. They are not totally wrong having this kind of thoughts. It's the era and the mind of people that changed, and although we appeared to be carrying on our ancestors' tradition in the exact way, we missed the most important thing: the spirit of the tradition. And with the spirit long gone, we are just people doing things named "tradition" like robots doing their chores, and it's anything but meaningful.
So it's tradition huh? Big deal!
If you hear your kids telling you that, it's not your kids' fault. It's your fault for not keeping the spirit alive in them.
Thursday, 11 August 2011
Rules for me, by me: Rule One
When I was at my working place, an idea suddenly sprang into my mind. I realize that in this world there's a lot of principles one has to follow in order achieve our desired success. But, the main thing is one always forget or ignore these principles somehow, although we know exactly that's the thing we should not have done. Well, so i reckoned i will put it down in words so I can always remind myself or get reminded by others (please do so, haha).
First of all, I have to stop one bad habit of mine: spending too much unnecessary money on drinks. When I was studying in matriculation level, I was living away from family and for the first time, using my pocket money with no one to control me or boss me about. Then, I realize that although I did not spend so much on food (still a very considerable amount since my appetite is huge), my pocket money seems to disappear at a faster rate than it should be. Why? well, I noticed that I spent a lot on drinks, which I could have saved a lot of money. Let's say I bought drinks for every lunch and dinner there, and each drinks costs averagely one ringgit, so in one month alone I will spend extra 60 ringgits! Plus, because I am a soy milk lover, I also buy soy milk to drink regularly, causing the extra money spent rise to nearly a hundred ringgit!
Wow, a hundred a month, in a year it will be one thousand and two hundred ringgits! Oh my gosh, I waste one thousand two hundred ringgit on my drinks alone when I completed my one year matriculation course! If I were to continue spending this much on my drinks I will be spending twelve thousand ringgits on drink in ten years, which is a very big amount already!
So, back to the present, I think I should stop this kind of money wastage before it's too late. Of course, for such a soy milk lover to cut out drinking soy milk for the rest of my life is unbearable. That's why I decide to limit my expenses on drinks to five ringgits a week, which allows me some spare bucks to grab a can or two of soy milk, which is the most delicious drink on earth for me! The best thing is, I can reduce my money spent on drinks by 80%, thus greatly increases my savings.
Sitting in a restaurant yesterday, a friend of mine asked me: "How you are going to eat without drinking? It will make your throat feel dry." Well, I still find the idea of drinking later from the bottle I brought along after I leave the restaurant better compared to wasting twelve thousand ringgits in ten years.
Well, I do think I am allowed to spend a bit more on drinks after I have saved quite an amount of money (at least five hundred thousand!). But for now I am just a boy who still get his pocket money from his parents and don't have the ability to feed myself. So it's just fair and more reasonable to spend less on things I don't really need (although soy milk is essential for me, at least mentally) and to spare some money for emergency.
Recently, the restaurant workers in the restaurant I always go to have my lunch have learned not to ask what drink I want (because it will be a waste of time, energy and saliva XD).
PS:
(It's OK if you think this idea is funny or I am too stingy, *shrug* because when one is short of twelve thousand ringgits some other time then only (s)he will know how much this small wasted expenses over the years will cost him(her). I have seen many people striving hard to survive when their business faces problems, yet they are capable of earning loads in the past.)
First of all, I have to stop one bad habit of mine: spending too much unnecessary money on drinks. When I was studying in matriculation level, I was living away from family and for the first time, using my pocket money with no one to control me or boss me about. Then, I realize that although I did not spend so much on food (still a very considerable amount since my appetite is huge), my pocket money seems to disappear at a faster rate than it should be. Why? well, I noticed that I spent a lot on drinks, which I could have saved a lot of money. Let's say I bought drinks for every lunch and dinner there, and each drinks costs averagely one ringgit, so in one month alone I will spend extra 60 ringgits! Plus, because I am a soy milk lover, I also buy soy milk to drink regularly, causing the extra money spent rise to nearly a hundred ringgit!
Wow, a hundred a month, in a year it will be one thousand and two hundred ringgits! Oh my gosh, I waste one thousand two hundred ringgit on my drinks alone when I completed my one year matriculation course! If I were to continue spending this much on my drinks I will be spending twelve thousand ringgits on drink in ten years, which is a very big amount already!
So, back to the present, I think I should stop this kind of money wastage before it's too late. Of course, for such a soy milk lover to cut out drinking soy milk for the rest of my life is unbearable. That's why I decide to limit my expenses on drinks to five ringgits a week, which allows me some spare bucks to grab a can or two of soy milk, which is the most delicious drink on earth for me! The best thing is, I can reduce my money spent on drinks by 80%, thus greatly increases my savings.
Sitting in a restaurant yesterday, a friend of mine asked me: "How you are going to eat without drinking? It will make your throat feel dry." Well, I still find the idea of drinking later from the bottle I brought along after I leave the restaurant better compared to wasting twelve thousand ringgits in ten years.
Well, I do think I am allowed to spend a bit more on drinks after I have saved quite an amount of money (at least five hundred thousand!). But for now I am just a boy who still get his pocket money from his parents and don't have the ability to feed myself. So it's just fair and more reasonable to spend less on things I don't really need (although soy milk is essential for me, at least mentally) and to spare some money for emergency.
Recently, the restaurant workers in the restaurant I always go to have my lunch have learned not to ask what drink I want (because it will be a waste of time, energy and saliva XD).
PS:
(It's OK if you think this idea is funny or I am too stingy, *shrug* because when one is short of twelve thousand ringgits some other time then only (s)he will know how much this small wasted expenses over the years will cost him(her). I have seen many people striving hard to survive when their business faces problems, yet they are capable of earning loads in the past.)
Saturday, 6 August 2011
From Bedtime Stories to Reading
When i was small, my mum used to read me bedtime stories before I sleep. Just like any other normal kids, I was totally fascinated by the stories about kings and princes, robbers and armies as well as magicians and witches. I still vividly remember myself begging my mum to tell more stories before sleeping, and my mum would say: "Hush dear, let's leave it for tomorrow." followed by a sweet smile.
When I grow older, I read story books with pictures and comics. But because I was deeply attracted by stories they appeared to me that the stories they hold are not satisfying enough. But since I was still small, for me the novels that appeared to hold a lot of words and thick are quite intimidating. It was till I completed my standard three education that I try to read a novel in the holidays under my mum's encouragement. I still remember the book titled: Nobel's life. To my astonishment, I was so absorbed by the book that I can't put it down before i finish it. From just a novel I can get a sight into Nobel's life and the story about how he fights against obstacles in his life before achieving great success that will benefit mankind forever.
Since that day, it was like a whole new world is exposed to me. I learned not to fear books that seems thick or articles with words I can't understand. One thing can be sure when you see such articles is there is new things to be learned, and nothing to fear. For hard words, you can find their meaning in dictionary. What really valuable that we can gain is a new way to think, sometimes an idea that can change your life and perspective, driving you in a whole different direction in your life. And what's more, you get to accumulate every perspective people can possibly have because you can read them off articles or books, thus, granting you the chance to compare and think critically based on the various facts and opinions laid in front of you.
People who read are the people who learn, and only those who are learned can change and innovate. A world's change may start from a single country evolving, and a single country's improvement starts from its people's knowledge and decision, while knowledge and the confidence to decide comes from reading.
"The world is flat" as the title of a book written by Thomas Friedman told us. The main reason of this phenomenon is due to the extensive communication applications used by mankind nowadays. Thanks to that, now we can read anything we want through internet and books are easier to reach every corners of the world. Blessed with these advantages, people who does make full use of the power of communication to extend their reading scope will be painfully limited and falls out of competition.
Sadly, although Malaysia is an evolving country, the reading amount by our citizens are still far behind other countries. Many of our people are still unaware of things happening around the globe that might give us lessons and valuable knowledge. For such people, how can they innovate and improve themselves, let alone helping in our nation's development?
It's true many people nowadays may not share my experience: being told bedtime stories that has drawn me towards the world of reading, but it is necessary to open their eyes wide and open their ears to the happenings around us. We as intelligent humans, must follow the tide of change and innovations or get left behind in the outdated thinking and era.
And most importantly, we will also need to educate our young about what powerful ability reading can provide us. If our young generations read, then they learn. When they learn, they change to become better.
Well, maybe parents should spend some time reading bedtime stories to their kids. =)
When I grow older, I read story books with pictures and comics. But because I was deeply attracted by stories they appeared to me that the stories they hold are not satisfying enough. But since I was still small, for me the novels that appeared to hold a lot of words and thick are quite intimidating. It was till I completed my standard three education that I try to read a novel in the holidays under my mum's encouragement. I still remember the book titled: Nobel's life. To my astonishment, I was so absorbed by the book that I can't put it down before i finish it. From just a novel I can get a sight into Nobel's life and the story about how he fights against obstacles in his life before achieving great success that will benefit mankind forever.
Since that day, it was like a whole new world is exposed to me. I learned not to fear books that seems thick or articles with words I can't understand. One thing can be sure when you see such articles is there is new things to be learned, and nothing to fear. For hard words, you can find their meaning in dictionary. What really valuable that we can gain is a new way to think, sometimes an idea that can change your life and perspective, driving you in a whole different direction in your life. And what's more, you get to accumulate every perspective people can possibly have because you can read them off articles or books, thus, granting you the chance to compare and think critically based on the various facts and opinions laid in front of you.
People who read are the people who learn, and only those who are learned can change and innovate. A world's change may start from a single country evolving, and a single country's improvement starts from its people's knowledge and decision, while knowledge and the confidence to decide comes from reading.
"The world is flat" as the title of a book written by Thomas Friedman told us. The main reason of this phenomenon is due to the extensive communication applications used by mankind nowadays. Thanks to that, now we can read anything we want through internet and books are easier to reach every corners of the world. Blessed with these advantages, people who does make full use of the power of communication to extend their reading scope will be painfully limited and falls out of competition.
Sadly, although Malaysia is an evolving country, the reading amount by our citizens are still far behind other countries. Many of our people are still unaware of things happening around the globe that might give us lessons and valuable knowledge. For such people, how can they innovate and improve themselves, let alone helping in our nation's development?
It's true many people nowadays may not share my experience: being told bedtime stories that has drawn me towards the world of reading, but it is necessary to open their eyes wide and open their ears to the happenings around us. We as intelligent humans, must follow the tide of change and innovations or get left behind in the outdated thinking and era.
And most importantly, we will also need to educate our young about what powerful ability reading can provide us. If our young generations read, then they learn. When they learn, they change to become better.
Well, maybe parents should spend some time reading bedtime stories to their kids. =)
Saturday, 30 July 2011
Oh Totally Coffee
Well, actually i am not a coffee lover. Personally, I only take some coffee occasionally when i really need an energy boost. I am writing this because one of my best friends is totally into coffee drinking, and I just sort of check out some facts of coffee and write here, so it's not wrong to say this passage is dedicated to that person.
For that person, if you are reading this, HAHAHA!!!
Never mind, we skipped that part first. I believe as a student studying for SPM or higher level exams will surely have some experience like this: Exam is near and i need to study late, oh my gosh I am so sleepy, so I take a cup of coffee; or Today's the big day and i really need to focus! But i felt a bit tired so i take a cup of coffee to wake my brain up. Sounds familiar?
Well, if that situation seems to occur more for you, then I can safely assume you are a frequent drinker. We have heard from many people that coffee brings what benefit or what bad effects, but I think we should use some times to judge which option is the best. So, here we are, let's start on some facts.
For pros, the long terms effects are:
1, Prevents cancer as coffee is a good source of antioxidant
2, Prevents Parkinson disease and Alzheimer's disease
3, Prevents liver cirrhosis
4, Reduces the risk of getting diabetics
Short terms effect (and the one reason student really think of when they drink coffee =P)
1, Temporary mental boost
For cons, long terms effects are:
1, Have higher chance to get osteoporosis
2, Have higher chance to get heart diseases
3, Dependency on caffeine
Short terms effect:
1: Alter the normal cycle of life ( time to sleep, eat, etc)
There's one thing need mentioning though. Of all the long terms effect stated there, the fastest to happen(depend on condition) is the dependency on caffeine. You won't get to reduce Alzheimer's diseases faster than you get addicted to caffeine. Luckily, caffeine is graded as a drug which is easier to recover from. It means if you do it take it too often, it won't have any effects. The problem of addiction usually has three main sources:
1, Love the taste of coffee, normally drink just for the taste
2, Take coffee whenever you think you need energy
3, develop a cycle where: drink coffee to stay up late at some time, life cycle gets affected, drink more when you feel tired at other time(actually is due to the first staying up)
If you find yourself one of these three, then you are quite vulnerable to coffee addiction, or to use more specific terms, caffeine dependency. The side effects includes having the need to take coffee at frequent intervals to avoid dizziness, headache and tiredness that appear without obvious reason. When you are in such condition, then it is a warning to you that you better start controlling your coffee intake.
There are some recommended steps:
1, Find some healthy activities and force yourself to do it to distract your mind from caffeine craving
2, Find some other healthy drinks to replace coffee, like soy milk drink, and tell yourself you don't need coffee with the presence of your new favorite drink!
3, Get used to not consuming caffeine by consuming decaffeinated coffee instead.
Good luck and hope you all can enjoy coffee as its friend and avoid the bad effects. =)
Monday, 25 July 2011
Still Littering In Our Supposed "Modern" Country
Littering.
I can safely assume that many people in this country grow up seeing a lot of littering done around them. Sometimes one can see rubbish get thrown out of private cars or public buses, from the top floor of a flat, from their house area over the fence....well, quite some varieties there. In fact, some people see so much littering done that they start to develop some thoughts like: "Well, if everyone's throwing rubbish that way then I can do that also isn't it?" or "It I do not litter, others still do, so what difference there will be? We may as well choose the easier way!"
If one were to ask people who litter why do they litter, I guess they can give you a hundred excuses, and some extremely funny ones you will get too, like this two: "The rubbish bin is no where to be seen.(Just a few feet from him, actually)" and "I am just following the public preference, aren't I?"
Even funnier, most people seemed to think that if a town is dirty and "rubbish-visible" at most places, the town council is mainly to be blamed. It's quite amusing that many people seemed to think that the main responsibility for city hygiene lies on town council and they should remove the rubbish in the town no matter how they achieve it, like sending more workers to sweep the rubbish or putting more rubbish bin or having more rubbish truck running around town collecting rubbish...well, nothing to do with themselves.
I supposed our town councils do have space for improvement, but i do not think they are the main cause in this problem. The real solution that will solve this problem is to educate our citizens not to throw rubbish anywhere at their leisure. It is clear that we have to admit sadly that our citizens may live in a city, but many of them have the awareness of environment hygiene as much as a three years old. Young and old people alike, are used to throwing rubbish at the moment they want as it is easier.
Although our schools have been telling students not to litter, our education seemed to fail as it's common knowledge that our education system mainly focuses on theory rather than practical even in moral education. In fact, I believe everyone who ever went to school recently will know students merely pose and take photographs for the moral projects, to give "proof" that they are involved in all sorts of "morally correct" activities which their teachers accept without question.
To achieve a modern mind on this particular among the citizens, drastic moves have to be taken by the government to regulate their actions and plant the seed of the modern thinking in their minds. These steps need to focus on "Punishment and Award" as well as "Direct Involvement". By punishing citizens who litter does not mean simply setting the law, but forming a special group in the police that makes sure that people who litters are actually caught and punished. Of course, this will work better if the lawbreakers were to sweep the city and help clear away rubbish they are so adapt at "producing". Rewarding groups or individuals who volunteers to keep the city clean will also encourage such activities. The cleanest village can also be rewarded to show the government's appreciation for their effort. The planting of the seed of modern thinking involves the direct interaction of officers in charge with locals and group cleaning activities with them(they are required to participate).
If our city is kept clean and tidy, our nation's image will be held higher as a really modern country in both technology and citizens' minds. Those who usually litters may also have a bit more hygiene conscious after seeing how nice it is to have a clean city.
But of course, it's up to the politicians to be aware of what they should do isn't it? I do not think anyone here could have overlook this problem, or maybe they are busying retorting critics at each other? Well, if the people were to stand up and speak, I fear another problem will arise, similar to an incident not long ago.... Shh... I am not supposed to say this.
Well, let's just pray that the problem of littering gets overcame soon.
I can safely assume that many people in this country grow up seeing a lot of littering done around them. Sometimes one can see rubbish get thrown out of private cars or public buses, from the top floor of a flat, from their house area over the fence....well, quite some varieties there. In fact, some people see so much littering done that they start to develop some thoughts like: "Well, if everyone's throwing rubbish that way then I can do that also isn't it?" or "It I do not litter, others still do, so what difference there will be? We may as well choose the easier way!"
If one were to ask people who litter why do they litter, I guess they can give you a hundred excuses, and some extremely funny ones you will get too, like this two: "The rubbish bin is no where to be seen.(Just a few feet from him, actually)" and "I am just following the public preference, aren't I?"
Even funnier, most people seemed to think that if a town is dirty and "rubbish-visible" at most places, the town council is mainly to be blamed. It's quite amusing that many people seemed to think that the main responsibility for city hygiene lies on town council and they should remove the rubbish in the town no matter how they achieve it, like sending more workers to sweep the rubbish or putting more rubbish bin or having more rubbish truck running around town collecting rubbish...well, nothing to do with themselves.
I supposed our town councils do have space for improvement, but i do not think they are the main cause in this problem. The real solution that will solve this problem is to educate our citizens not to throw rubbish anywhere at their leisure. It is clear that we have to admit sadly that our citizens may live in a city, but many of them have the awareness of environment hygiene as much as a three years old. Young and old people alike, are used to throwing rubbish at the moment they want as it is easier.
Although our schools have been telling students not to litter, our education seemed to fail as it's common knowledge that our education system mainly focuses on theory rather than practical even in moral education. In fact, I believe everyone who ever went to school recently will know students merely pose and take photographs for the moral projects, to give "proof" that they are involved in all sorts of "morally correct" activities which their teachers accept without question.
To achieve a modern mind on this particular among the citizens, drastic moves have to be taken by the government to regulate their actions and plant the seed of the modern thinking in their minds. These steps need to focus on "Punishment and Award" as well as "Direct Involvement". By punishing citizens who litter does not mean simply setting the law, but forming a special group in the police that makes sure that people who litters are actually caught and punished. Of course, this will work better if the lawbreakers were to sweep the city and help clear away rubbish they are so adapt at "producing". Rewarding groups or individuals who volunteers to keep the city clean will also encourage such activities. The cleanest village can also be rewarded to show the government's appreciation for their effort. The planting of the seed of modern thinking involves the direct interaction of officers in charge with locals and group cleaning activities with them(they are required to participate).
If our city is kept clean and tidy, our nation's image will be held higher as a really modern country in both technology and citizens' minds. Those who usually litters may also have a bit more hygiene conscious after seeing how nice it is to have a clean city.
But of course, it's up to the politicians to be aware of what they should do isn't it? I do not think anyone here could have overlook this problem, or maybe they are busying retorting critics at each other? Well, if the people were to stand up and speak, I fear another problem will arise, similar to an incident not long ago.... Shh... I am not supposed to say this.
Well, let's just pray that the problem of littering gets overcame soon.
Thursday, 21 July 2011
Should I use the "supposed" way?
I had heard from one of my colleagues some tips to handle particularly ego boss or older relatives. He told me that the best way to achieve good relationship and make them like you is to nod and approve whenever they lecture or tell you which way is the best way. Of course, he added, if he or she teach you the wrong way or give you pointless advice (it's up to you to tell whether it is pointless or not), you are quite free to follow the right way (the right way according to you, if you are sure) when that particular person is not poking his nose around. Most funnily is the example he told me: "If your boss tell you that the letter 'B' is read as 'A', just read as 'A' in front of him and resume reading 'B' behind his back."
Well, after several months' working in a secondhand car shop, i perfectly understand the effectiveness of the way he taught me. In fact, it is so effective that the results i get after trying it out is almost shocking. Through my observations, i realized that this type of people normally enjoys having a certain degree of domination over other people, and the people they have the best chance and excuse to dominate is their junior or their employees. They are mostly confident about their own plans and strategies, that they do not allow other people to contradict them, whether they are correct or wrong. They also tend to blame something on others so that they appear to be not responsible for something wrong.
Although we can assume this type of people will have a lower chance of succeeding in their career and become the leader, some did succeed. Some of them are humble and clever. By learning fast and working hard, they may rise to the top without trouble. The problem is, once they think their position is high enough already or they are the "pros" then this type of personality will, most unfortunately, appear and cause the "lower rank people" around him to suffer.
Well, the trick to handle them is to let them win. How? Whenever you are accused, always say sorry and oh-i-will-never-do-that-again type of things. Then, rush off to solve(or make it look like) the problem and report to him afterwards. Of course if it is actually not your fault at all after u solve or fail to solve that problem, give him hints in your report(verbally or on paper) that it is actually not your fault. Mostly, this type of people will keep quiet and won't mention that problem anymore(although they also will not take back their word that's it's your fault, mostly anyway) but will find a way to "pay back" your good deed of of rushing to solve problem without thinking of defending yourself first and of course, keeping their face on their face. So, you are more likely to be promoted and have a "immunity card "even if you do make some mistakes.
Handy isn't it? So this should be the "supposed" way when it comes to tackle such type of people. Of course if he or she is just some people who are not superior than you you can just simply ignore and keep your distance, no need to bother standing them as you do for your boss or seniors.
A relative( let's call him Mr C) of mine is exactly of the type above. The problem is, he is also quite close to me, in fact, more than just a relative to me. Sadly, when he try to teach me or rather, "control" me for my own good, he always put me in misery. I know he is right in many things, but when he is wrong sometimes he just couldn't listen to sense. In other words, he can't accept that he is wrong in any way.
But should i use the "supposed" way when dealing with him? I know that it will make him happy and perhaps like me more, but I am sad to see him cheating himself whenever he do something wrong. I hope I can discuss with him about what's wrong and what's right in a harmony atmosphere rather than breaking into a shouting match every time we tried to discuss. I do not wish to treat him like some type of task that i handle mechanically, just to obtain his preference and treats. I hate just simply nodding when he lecture me with pointless advice and ignoring it just the same. It makes me feel so far away from him, even further than shouting at each other, because at least we are telling each other the thing we have in our minds.....
Maybe i should just use the supposed way to simplify matters: to improve our relationship as there won't be any quarreling after using it. But if I were to use that particular way, won't our relationship become more distant even though we don't quarrel? He will only get to see the faked ME I act in front of him, telling him nothing of my opinions, my thoughts, my dreams......
Should i use the supposed way or shouldn't I?
Well, after several months' working in a secondhand car shop, i perfectly understand the effectiveness of the way he taught me. In fact, it is so effective that the results i get after trying it out is almost shocking. Through my observations, i realized that this type of people normally enjoys having a certain degree of domination over other people, and the people they have the best chance and excuse to dominate is their junior or their employees. They are mostly confident about their own plans and strategies, that they do not allow other people to contradict them, whether they are correct or wrong. They also tend to blame something on others so that they appear to be not responsible for something wrong.
Although we can assume this type of people will have a lower chance of succeeding in their career and become the leader, some did succeed. Some of them are humble and clever. By learning fast and working hard, they may rise to the top without trouble. The problem is, once they think their position is high enough already or they are the "pros" then this type of personality will, most unfortunately, appear and cause the "lower rank people" around him to suffer.
Well, the trick to handle them is to let them win. How? Whenever you are accused, always say sorry and oh-i-will-never-do-that-again type of things. Then, rush off to solve(or make it look like) the problem and report to him afterwards. Of course if it is actually not your fault at all after u solve or fail to solve that problem, give him hints in your report(verbally or on paper) that it is actually not your fault. Mostly, this type of people will keep quiet and won't mention that problem anymore(although they also will not take back their word that's it's your fault, mostly anyway) but will find a way to "pay back" your good deed of of rushing to solve problem without thinking of defending yourself first and of course, keeping their face on their face. So, you are more likely to be promoted and have a "immunity card "even if you do make some mistakes.
Handy isn't it? So this should be the "supposed" way when it comes to tackle such type of people. Of course if he or she is just some people who are not superior than you you can just simply ignore and keep your distance, no need to bother standing them as you do for your boss or seniors.
A relative( let's call him Mr C) of mine is exactly of the type above. The problem is, he is also quite close to me, in fact, more than just a relative to me. Sadly, when he try to teach me or rather, "control" me for my own good, he always put me in misery. I know he is right in many things, but when he is wrong sometimes he just couldn't listen to sense. In other words, he can't accept that he is wrong in any way.
But should i use the "supposed" way when dealing with him? I know that it will make him happy and perhaps like me more, but I am sad to see him cheating himself whenever he do something wrong. I hope I can discuss with him about what's wrong and what's right in a harmony atmosphere rather than breaking into a shouting match every time we tried to discuss. I do not wish to treat him like some type of task that i handle mechanically, just to obtain his preference and treats. I hate just simply nodding when he lecture me with pointless advice and ignoring it just the same. It makes me feel so far away from him, even further than shouting at each other, because at least we are telling each other the thing we have in our minds.....
Maybe i should just use the supposed way to simplify matters: to improve our relationship as there won't be any quarreling after using it. But if I were to use that particular way, won't our relationship become more distant even though we don't quarrel? He will only get to see the faked ME I act in front of him, telling him nothing of my opinions, my thoughts, my dreams......
Should i use the supposed way or shouldn't I?
Friday, 15 July 2011
走进社会
一年前，我只是个求学的学生，一个父母的孩子，一个妹妹的哥哥。生活费是父母供应，生活最重要只是把学业搞好，以申请到好的大学，为前途铺好一条康庄大道。当时，学生们脑中，眼中和口中，都把成绩好，课外活动好的同学当成“最成功的”，要不就是最有“潜能”的。大家一般也把课外活动中的良好表现，当成是生活中很可能在申请工作或工作上发挥正面效应的“才能”。
但一年后的我，在一间小小的二手车店打了两个月工后，却觉得：不然。
走到外面，发现有好多好多东西，学校都没教你，甚至课外活动也学不到。也许你会认为，生活只要跟着条规去走，就不会有什么问题，就像玩游戏要遵守游戏规则一样。但是，问题是大多数规则是没有写出来的。
学生的头脑中都是那么想：努力读好书，考取好成绩，找到好工作，得到高新水。要不然就是赚取很多钱后去环游世界。生活就是那么简单，是吗？
这里送大家一些话:
1，成绩固然能够帮助我们得到好的工作，但是成功的人，绝对不是靠成绩那么简单。
2，无论你是正派还是邪派，要往上爬的时候都要时时注意别人是否会因为自己要爬上去而一脚踩在你的头上。辛辛苦苦爬了那么久，一个不小心给人害得摔了下去你就得从头爬过。
3，无论你本事多高，你最多能做到的就是爬到事业的顶端。但是真正的考验是你是否能保持你的成就？这要比爬到顶端难很多，因为爬到更高，想打倒你的人更多。
4，很多不起眼的机会，却是别人成功的途径。很多人抢着要的东西，却不一定是最好的。
5，社会是不分年长年幼的，一踏进社会就不要指望别人“放水”，反而要全力以赴，才会有立足之处。
6，自己要照顾好自己，靠别人迟早会出现问题。
7，人家说很多话，最好过滤过才采用。
8，祸从口出。
9，倒下是没关系的，关键是你是否能爬起来。
10，不能飞，就做最好的步行者。
11，不要得罪一无所有的人，就是因为他们一无所有才会跟你拼命。
12，利益冲突，朋友变敌人。让朋友欠你太多，朋友没得做。利益合作，敌人变朋友。
13，有时输在表面的才是真正的赢家。
14，输给老板不是输。赢了老板不是赢。让老板满意：双赢。
最重要的是，踏入社会时眼睛注意看，耳朵注意听。多学习，少炫耀。该说时说，该静时静。
那么，相信在你踏入社会时，会走得较顺利和自在。=）
但一年后的我，在一间小小的二手车店打了两个月工后，却觉得：不然。
走到外面，发现有好多好多东西，学校都没教你，甚至课外活动也学不到。也许你会认为，生活只要跟着条规去走，就不会有什么问题，就像玩游戏要遵守游戏规则一样。但是，问题是大多数规则是没有写出来的。
学生的头脑中都是那么想：努力读好书，考取好成绩，找到好工作，得到高新水。要不然就是赚取很多钱后去环游世界。生活就是那么简单，是吗？
这里送大家一些话:
1，成绩固然能够帮助我们得到好的工作，但是成功的人，绝对不是靠成绩那么简单。
2，无论你是正派还是邪派，要往上爬的时候都要时时注意别人是否会因为自己要爬上去而一脚踩在你的头上。辛辛苦苦爬了那么久，一个不小心给人害得摔了下去你就得从头爬过。
3，无论你本事多高，你最多能做到的就是爬到事业的顶端。但是真正的考验是你是否能保持你的成就？这要比爬到顶端难很多，因为爬到更高，想打倒你的人更多。
4，很多不起眼的机会，却是别人成功的途径。很多人抢着要的东西，却不一定是最好的。
5，社会是不分年长年幼的，一踏进社会就不要指望别人“放水”，反而要全力以赴，才会有立足之处。
6，自己要照顾好自己，靠别人迟早会出现问题。
7，人家说很多话，最好过滤过才采用。
8，祸从口出。
9，倒下是没关系的，关键是你是否能爬起来。
10，不能飞，就做最好的步行者。
11，不要得罪一无所有的人，就是因为他们一无所有才会跟你拼命。
12，利益冲突，朋友变敌人。让朋友欠你太多，朋友没得做。利益合作，敌人变朋友。
13，有时输在表面的才是真正的赢家。
14，输给老板不是输。赢了老板不是赢。让老板满意：双赢。
最重要的是，踏入社会时眼睛注意看，耳朵注意听。多学习，少炫耀。该说时说，该静时静。
那么，相信在你踏入社会时，会走得较顺利和自在。=）
Sunday, 10 July 2011
我和死神擦肩而过
今天中午一点我一如往常地通知老板（我正在工作）一声：“我去吃午餐啦！”然后就带着愉快的心情，骑上店里的老电单车，准备出发到我最爱去的经济饭店去。我好不容易才等到这时刻，终于可以好好地“镇压”我肚子里正闹得翻天覆地的“革命”，骑在电单车上的我心中痛快无比。
这段路在我工作的两个月里，至少走了一百遍了，无论是回家还是吃午餐我都必经此路。就算是蒙上眼睛也知道怎样走。那时天气多云，不会太热，更使我钟爱着一刻。对我来说，知道美好的午餐就快要到来时虽然还没真的吃到嘴，但是那感觉是多么幸福！不知不觉已经快到目的地了，只要前面来个U转，莫约一百米就到啦！
在这时候，在我前面是一辆蓝色国产车“普丹英雄”。这是一条直路，我骑电单车跟在后头，离那车大概有两米。我们都以三十公里时速前进。就在那时，它在没给任何讯号的情况下，竟然突然左转进旁边的一条路！十五年的骑脚车经验给的直觉反应在身，我急踩油门。但两米的距离，终究是太短了。眼看电单车要撞上车子的时候，我脑海中出现了两种影像：一是我向左边翻覆倒地，二是从电单车上飞起，飞过那车子再摔在马路上！在这两样事情都还未发生的时候，我的右脚自动飞起，一蹬其车身，同时把电单车头转左，右手增油以避免翻覆，向路旁左侧的空地幸运逃出！
在我正在喘气当中，看见刚才那辆车的车主，回头望一望后竟然加大油门逃走了！一位刚好在附近的老伯见到了立刻上前来问我是否有事，还说怕我有事要为我出头。说了几句“没事没事！”后，我心有遗惊地继续我的路程。心在胸膛里跳得就快要破胸而出，身上全是冷汗。
吃午餐之前打个电话给一位之前失接他电话的朋友，嘴里废话说个不停，只盼能让我暂时忘却刚才的事件。今天的午餐就像是在咬橡皮似的，只得将就吞下肚子去……
事后心情恢复平静时冷静地想一想，真的很感谢老阿伯时后立即关心，但也很痛恨那位鲁莽的司机不顾他人死活。在路上人们常常会为了他人的错误而面对生命的威胁，但也只有时时提醒自己：在马路上要安全无事，不但要遵守交通规则，还要记得随时准备避开因他人的错而对你造成的生命威胁！
这段路在我工作的两个月里，至少走了一百遍了，无论是回家还是吃午餐我都必经此路。就算是蒙上眼睛也知道怎样走。那时天气多云，不会太热，更使我钟爱着一刻。对我来说，知道美好的午餐就快要到来时虽然还没真的吃到嘴，但是那感觉是多么幸福！不知不觉已经快到目的地了，只要前面来个U转，莫约一百米就到啦！
在这时候，在我前面是一辆蓝色国产车“普丹英雄”。这是一条直路，我骑电单车跟在后头，离那车大概有两米。我们都以三十公里时速前进。就在那时，它在没给任何讯号的情况下，竟然突然左转进旁边的一条路！十五年的骑脚车经验给的直觉反应在身，我急踩油门。但两米的距离，终究是太短了。眼看电单车要撞上车子的时候，我脑海中出现了两种影像：一是我向左边翻覆倒地，二是从电单车上飞起，飞过那车子再摔在马路上！在这两样事情都还未发生的时候，我的右脚自动飞起，一蹬其车身，同时把电单车头转左，右手增油以避免翻覆，向路旁左侧的空地幸运逃出！
在我正在喘气当中，看见刚才那辆车的车主，回头望一望后竟然加大油门逃走了！一位刚好在附近的老伯见到了立刻上前来问我是否有事，还说怕我有事要为我出头。说了几句“没事没事！”后，我心有遗惊地继续我的路程。心在胸膛里跳得就快要破胸而出，身上全是冷汗。
吃午餐之前打个电话给一位之前失接他电话的朋友，嘴里废话说个不停，只盼能让我暂时忘却刚才的事件。今天的午餐就像是在咬橡皮似的，只得将就吞下肚子去……
事后心情恢复平静时冷静地想一想，真的很感谢老阿伯时后立即关心，但也很痛恨那位鲁莽的司机不顾他人死活。在路上人们常常会为了他人的错误而面对生命的威胁，但也只有时时提醒自己：在马路上要安全无事，不但要遵守交通规则，还要记得随时准备避开因他人的错而对你造成的生命威胁！
Wednesday, 6 July 2011
透明化-团体进步之道
一个人要进步，需要努力，智慧和规划。一个团体却需要更多。为什么？因为团体包括了员工之间的沟通，合作。越是大的团体，沟通上会更有挑战性。而且，团体大了需要更有效的分配，同时要确保所有部门不会出现问题，或能迅速解决问题。
一个公司，在管理和行政上都必须透明化。透明化是指将公司重要的事项管理还有所采取的行动毫无隐瞒地告知公司员工和社会。当然，有些事情是应该只在高阶层的管理层里讨论，就好比公司在生意上的策略。大体上，透明化能有效又快速地找到问题所在，同时让错误的出现率降低。打个比方：钱财分配上出现不合理之处，就会立刻被发现。不单是被影响的部门会投诉，别的部门也不会或不敢因为对自己有好处而将事实隐瞒，因为不说每个人都知道。管理层也不会因为麻烦而忽略这问题，因为别人会指指点点。问题很快被发现，又毫无隐瞒，问题就很快被解决。
我们不难发现，一个团体里，问题的出现通常是在能力问题或责任和态度问题。怎么说？当工作分配得不好，可能因为是分配者在分配工作上经验不住，分配错误；或是为了私事或个人利益故意作出不当编排。透明化就是在这其中能一石二鸟的方法。如果是能力问题，别人知晓后可以指出问题所在和提出意见，协助当事者发现和解决问题。而对于为了个人利益的家伙，他更是不敢随便乱来，因为大家都会知道自己在做什么。这就是为什么公司上司一般会要求个个部门定时呈报开销，行动及管理细节给公司管理层知道。管理层同时也将如何分配公司资源和管理方针公布给员工，让员工更了解公司的进展方向。
最让我感到奇怪的是，私人界里人人都会的东西，在一些公众事项竟然不去实行。政府一年总共收多少税？从各种行业中获得多少盈利，而这些钱如何用在人民身上？在各项事务中开销多少？我想，大多数人民都一无所知。时常听到的只是：某某工程开销多少多少，但从不给仔细的报告。有时被漏出来时，才叫人大跌眼镜。就像面子书旅游部网页，竟然告诉大家需要花那么大一笔钱，但是网页怎样呢？并不是做得一鸣惊人嘛。新闻爆出来后，大家才发现了政府部门里竟然没有人知道用面子书设立商业广告页是可以免费的，也难怪引起网民在网上热烈抨击。但欣慰的是，问题总算被发现，而被发现就会有被解决的机会。最让人担心的是：又有多少事是不为人知的呢？
世界各个先进国本身和私人界表现良好的公司都提供了我们最好的实例：一个团体要进步，小至学校学生学会，大至国家执政政府，透明化是必通之道！只有让事务的进行透明化，才会让舞弊的存在无所遁形。
一个公司，在管理和行政上都必须透明化。透明化是指将公司重要的事项管理还有所采取的行动毫无隐瞒地告知公司员工和社会。当然，有些事情是应该只在高阶层的管理层里讨论，就好比公司在生意上的策略。大体上，透明化能有效又快速地找到问题所在，同时让错误的出现率降低。打个比方：钱财分配上出现不合理之处，就会立刻被发现。不单是被影响的部门会投诉，别的部门也不会或不敢因为对自己有好处而将事实隐瞒，因为不说每个人都知道。管理层也不会因为麻烦而忽略这问题，因为别人会指指点点。问题很快被发现，又毫无隐瞒，问题就很快被解决。
我们不难发现，一个团体里，问题的出现通常是在能力问题或责任和态度问题。怎么说？当工作分配得不好，可能因为是分配者在分配工作上经验不住，分配错误；或是为了私事或个人利益故意作出不当编排。透明化就是在这其中能一石二鸟的方法。如果是能力问题，别人知晓后可以指出问题所在和提出意见，协助当事者发现和解决问题。而对于为了个人利益的家伙，他更是不敢随便乱来，因为大家都会知道自己在做什么。这就是为什么公司上司一般会要求个个部门定时呈报开销，行动及管理细节给公司管理层知道。管理层同时也将如何分配公司资源和管理方针公布给员工，让员工更了解公司的进展方向。
最让我感到奇怪的是，私人界里人人都会的东西，在一些公众事项竟然不去实行。政府一年总共收多少税？从各种行业中获得多少盈利，而这些钱如何用在人民身上？在各项事务中开销多少？我想，大多数人民都一无所知。时常听到的只是：某某工程开销多少多少，但从不给仔细的报告。有时被漏出来时，才叫人大跌眼镜。就像面子书旅游部网页，竟然告诉大家需要花那么大一笔钱，但是网页怎样呢？并不是做得一鸣惊人嘛。新闻爆出来后，大家才发现了政府部门里竟然没有人知道用面子书设立商业广告页是可以免费的，也难怪引起网民在网上热烈抨击。但欣慰的是，问题总算被发现，而被发现就会有被解决的机会。最让人担心的是：又有多少事是不为人知的呢？
世界各个先进国本身和私人界表现良好的公司都提供了我们最好的实例：一个团体要进步，小至学校学生学会，大至国家执政政府，透明化是必通之道！只有让事务的进行透明化，才会让舞弊的存在无所遁形。
Thursday, 30 June 2011
不该淹的水
又淹水了。
记得上一次淹水的时候，是在去年十一月。当时，泰国发生大水灾，水从我国北部玻璃市州一直来到日得拉，再加上连日大雨，使到一场严重的水灾降临吉打多个地区。再加上当时是正月十五，海水涨潮，更进一步加重灾情。过后大水继续往四周流去，最后终于到了亚罗士打，城市内多个地方都淹水了。
就在无数的物件没入洪水之时，许多疑问却浮出水面。
水往低处流，除了海平线特别低的地方，水势应该很快就会散到别的地方去。但是实际上呢？一些处于高地的地方，竟然也淹起水来，更打破了当地淹水高度的纪录。奇怪的是，当天艳阳高照，并没下雨。那么水为什么只来不去？为什么水位连升了一整天，到了晚上才降？
沟渠阻塞？排水系统不好？但是已经二十年没这样了，为什么会突然间这样？还是雨量过多？但这种事情，我想冰冻三尺，非一日之寒。
正巧，市政局正在城市中心开发天桥，要让车子以后可以更快通行，无需再被火车耽误。但是水灾后到工地去看个究竟，发现为了方便工程进行，一些水沟被改道，有些更是被改成更窄，让通水的速度大大降低。当然，市政局在批准工程后，没好好监督工程的进行，是有一定的责任。但是发生了那么一场水灾，大家都相信市政局应该会采取行动改变，毕竟他们自己也怕更严重的水灾发生吧？
半年后的前天，下了两小时大雨，结果又淹水了。区区两个小时大雨，当然没有淹到像上次一样严重，但还是造成附近居民诸多不便。原因是什么？不用想都知道。市政局当然还没解决工地排水问题。
半年过去了。不从错误中学习，悔改，而采取行动预防，就会让错误不断重演。过了就无所谓的态度，更是要不得。老是等大水灾来了，才去挖水沟，这样会有用吗？
苦的是人民，被这不该淹的水害得好苦。
记得上一次淹水的时候，是在去年十一月。当时，泰国发生大水灾，水从我国北部玻璃市州一直来到日得拉，再加上连日大雨，使到一场严重的水灾降临吉打多个地区。再加上当时是正月十五，海水涨潮，更进一步加重灾情。过后大水继续往四周流去，最后终于到了亚罗士打，城市内多个地方都淹水了。
就在无数的物件没入洪水之时，许多疑问却浮出水面。
水往低处流，除了海平线特别低的地方，水势应该很快就会散到别的地方去。但是实际上呢？一些处于高地的地方，竟然也淹起水来，更打破了当地淹水高度的纪录。奇怪的是，当天艳阳高照，并没下雨。那么水为什么只来不去？为什么水位连升了一整天，到了晚上才降？
沟渠阻塞？排水系统不好？但是已经二十年没这样了，为什么会突然间这样？还是雨量过多？但这种事情，我想冰冻三尺，非一日之寒。
正巧，市政局正在城市中心开发天桥，要让车子以后可以更快通行，无需再被火车耽误。但是水灾后到工地去看个究竟，发现为了方便工程进行，一些水沟被改道，有些更是被改成更窄，让通水的速度大大降低。当然，市政局在批准工程后，没好好监督工程的进行，是有一定的责任。但是发生了那么一场水灾，大家都相信市政局应该会采取行动改变，毕竟他们自己也怕更严重的水灾发生吧？
半年后的前天，下了两小时大雨，结果又淹水了。区区两个小时大雨，当然没有淹到像上次一样严重，但还是造成附近居民诸多不便。原因是什么？不用想都知道。市政局当然还没解决工地排水问题。
半年过去了。不从错误中学习，悔改，而采取行动预防，就会让错误不断重演。过了就无所谓的态度，更是要不得。老是等大水灾来了，才去挖水沟，这样会有用吗？
苦的是人民，被这不该淹的水害得好苦。
论钱
钱钱钱……
有人说：“钱是万能的！”但是更多人说：“我生活里最重要的不是钱！”
大家觉得，谁对谁错？
其实，都对。你若说其中一个不对，那就是你不了解钱。也许是生活一向来不缺钱，不然就是不知道钱这东西到底在现实中能起什么作用，不能起什么作用。
不信？让我们来分析一下。
你说钱不是万能吗？
钱买不了友情，这点我不能否认。但从另一个角度来看，没钱你能有友情，但一个很穷的朋友跟一个很富有的朋友是肯定有一层隔膜。无论你要说平时做的事，各自的交流圈子，各自的看法和人生观都一样，这还要包括对朋友的心态也会改变。每一个人不可能不和朋友做一些比较，而当中就会浮现一点点的妒嫉或自卑，可怜或轻视，有时更是不止一点。有了这一层隔膜，朋友还在，但知己却没了。钱不能买真心朋友，但绝对能动摇友情。当然你可能说穷人和富人还能够做很好的朋友，但是富人不帮助穷朋友，就会有些不好意思，但穷人总是接受富人帮助，更会不好意思。不好意思来不好意思去，友情就会悄悄地变质了。
再来我们看亲情和爱情。这两者表面上跟钱没关系，但是仔细想想，关系可大呢！亲情可分为与前辈的，同辈的和小辈的亲情。先说说与前辈的亲情吧，如果自己的前辈（比如父母）从来不曾在自己身上付出一毛钱，又怎样抚养我们长大？单靠爱心来当食物？对于同辈亲情，每一个人都要至少能养活自己，不老是面对钱财问题，否则再好的人自己的兄弟姐妹也受不了老是给你钱。对于家庭，尤其是小辈的孩子，没钱要怎么让他吃得饱，穿得好呢？也许你可能会说穷人也能一家乐融融，但至少那种穷人还能让孩子活下去。要不然，孩子都送给别人养了，你再爱他，恐怕他以后想起“养育之恩”时，应该和你没关系。若是命苦，还要反问你为什么没能力养他，要害他吃那么多苦呢！
人生要过得去，钱是少不了的。当然，这不代表钱是无所不能，但因为绝大多数事情都需要钱，所以我们说钱是万能。但要是不了解钱是多重要也就算了，因为每个人踏入社会自己独立时一定会发现前的重要性。最糟糕的是第二种人：认为生命最重要的是钱的人。
什么都需要钱，但是最重要的却不是钱。为什么？因为钱是条件，却绝对不是关键。打个比方，朋友之间钱财要保持独立，友谊才能长久，但友谊关键在义气不在钱；写一本小说你至少要有钱买笔和纸，但关键却在于你胸中究竟有没有墨水。钱是万能，因为在绝大多数事情都需要，但它不是无所不能，因为它不是意义所在之处！就算是做生意，其意义也不是在钱，而是在你的付出，智慧，判断和勇气！有哪一位富人，世人不是赞赏他们的奋斗和恒心呢？你可能羡慕一个中马票发达的人，但这种钱，又有任何意义？这种羡慕，只是因为人们以现实的眼光来跟自己比较时，觉得那是比自己所有的更美好的东西，决不会得到任何的尊敬！如果人们对发了财的人低声下气，那不是怕你对他不利，就是对你的钱虎视眈眈呀！
不知道钱的重要性而忽略了赚钱之道及理财之道，人生固然会过得事事不顺，穷困潦倒；不明白钱财不是最重要的人生事项，人生也会过得毫无意义，心灵空虚。一个人不懂得在钱财上选择正确心态，保持心灵的平衡点，不是面对生存危机，就是心灵疾苦。
简单来说，可用两句话来终结：
钱可能是万能，但不是无所不能！
有钱不一定能，但没钱你万万不能！
钱买不了友情，这点我不能否认。但从另一个角度来看，没钱你能有友情，但一个很穷的朋友跟一个很富有的朋友是肯定有一层隔膜。无论你要说平时做的事，各自的交流圈子，各自的看法和人生观都一样，这还要包括对朋友的心态也会改变。每一个人不可能不和朋友做一些比较，而当中就会浮现一点点的妒嫉或自卑，可怜或轻视，有时更是不止一点。有了这一层隔膜，朋友还在，但知己却没了。钱不能买真心朋友，但绝对能动摇友情。当然你可能说穷人和富人还能够做很好的朋友，但是富人不帮助穷朋友，就会有些不好意思，但穷人总是接受富人帮助，更会不好意思。不好意思来不好意思去，友情就会悄悄地变质了。
再来我们看亲情和爱情。这两者表面上跟钱没关系，但是仔细想想，关系可大呢！亲情可分为与前辈的，同辈的和小辈的亲情。先说说与前辈的亲情吧，如果自己的前辈（比如父母）从来不曾在自己身上付出一毛钱，又怎样抚养我们长大？单靠爱心来当食物？对于同辈亲情，每一个人都要至少能养活自己，不老是面对钱财问题，否则再好的人自己的兄弟姐妹也受不了老是给你钱。对于家庭，尤其是小辈的孩子，没钱要怎么让他吃得饱，穿得好呢？也许你可能会说穷人也能一家乐融融，但至少那种穷人还能让孩子活下去。要不然，孩子都送给别人养了，你再爱他，恐怕他以后想起“养育之恩”时，应该和你没关系。若是命苦，还要反问你为什么没能力养他，要害他吃那么多苦呢！
人生要过得去，钱是少不了的。当然，这不代表钱是无所不能，但因为绝大多数事情都需要钱，所以我们说钱是万能。但要是不了解钱是多重要也就算了，因为每个人踏入社会自己独立时一定会发现前的重要性。最糟糕的是第二种人：认为生命最重要的是钱的人。
什么都需要钱，但是最重要的却不是钱。为什么？因为钱是条件，却绝对不是关键。打个比方，朋友之间钱财要保持独立，友谊才能长久，但友谊关键在义气不在钱；写一本小说你至少要有钱买笔和纸，但关键却在于你胸中究竟有没有墨水。钱是万能，因为在绝大多数事情都需要，但它不是无所不能，因为它不是意义所在之处！就算是做生意，其意义也不是在钱，而是在你的付出，智慧，判断和勇气！有哪一位富人，世人不是赞赏他们的奋斗和恒心呢？你可能羡慕一个中马票发达的人，但这种钱，又有任何意义？这种羡慕，只是因为人们以现实的眼光来跟自己比较时，觉得那是比自己所有的更美好的东西，决不会得到任何的尊敬！如果人们对发了财的人低声下气，那不是怕你对他不利，就是对你的钱虎视眈眈呀！
不知道钱的重要性而忽略了赚钱之道及理财之道，人生固然会过得事事不顺，穷困潦倒；不明白钱财不是最重要的人生事项，人生也会过得毫无意义，心灵空虚。一个人不懂得在钱财上选择正确心态，保持心灵的平衡点，不是面对生存危机，就是心灵疾苦。
简单来说，可用两句话来终结：
钱可能是万能，但不是无所不能！
有钱不一定能，但没钱你万万不能！
Thursday, 23 June 2011
想还是不想？
有时候没事做时，总会坐在那里，头脑里似乎不停的想，却又说不出在想什么。
想生活？算是吧。每个人闲时都会想一些吧，什么自己为何会到这世界啊，什么是人生意义啊，这等算很深奥的问题，好象是对人生意义影响甚大的问题。但有时候会觉得是废题，无聊的人才去想的。
也没什么对不对的。
自古以来伟大的思想家多的是，天天似乎是想为生活的主要活动。像那些希腊古时候，想到胡子都白遍了的人，却受到人们的尊敬，到今天历史课本里也要塞一些他们的思想。有人说：他们只会想，不会做！什么了不起的？但又有人说：会做的人不缺乏，会想的人才珍贵呢，要不是他们的思想，怎么会有今天呢？人生怎么会知道怎样才有意义呢？想一想，也对，能想到的人的确更少。
但是有另一种说法是这样说的：人要是活得充实，生活被各种活动充满，又怎么会那么得空，去想那么多呢？穷人忙着找碗饭吃，忙人忙都来不及了，这种东西再深奥，再有思考的价值都对他们一文不值吧。在歌颂这些东西的人，还不是吃饱了没事做，假装自己很高尚的人而已。 话说回来，诶，也有道理哦。
那到底怎么说才对？还是双方都对？或者原来大家都错？
在这里，我本身觉得无所谓对错，因为很多东西，都是看你要怎样去看，怎样去下结论。
每一个人都是不同的个体，都有不同的想法。有人不喜欢想，或者想的都是自己现在应该做什么，活在自己的当下，天天都过得很自在，这是一种生活方式。这种人，从充实中找到幸福。另一种人这是对于世间的道理都想知道，会去探讨的人。这一种人则因为知道而觉得自己的生活有意义，不象无头苍蝇般乱冲乱撞。这也是一种生活方式，因为人类毕竟是懂得思考才和其他生物有差别。
对我而言，我们必须在想和做里面寻找一个平衡点。要把人生意义发挥到最佳，这一点是必要的。我们不应该老是做，一点道理都不了解，但更不该光想不做，如同废人。
就用路来打个比方，脑想而脚不动，永远走不出一条路；单走而脑不动，搞不好会失足。
脑动而脚动，人生道路才会走得有意义又实在！
想生活？算是吧。每个人闲时都会想一些吧，什么自己为何会到这世界啊，什么是人生意义啊，这等算很深奥的问题，好象是对人生意义影响甚大的问题。但有时候会觉得是废题，无聊的人才去想的。
也没什么对不对的。
自古以来伟大的思想家多的是，天天似乎是想为生活的主要活动。像那些希腊古时候，想到胡子都白遍了的人，却受到人们的尊敬，到今天历史课本里也要塞一些他们的思想。有人说：他们只会想，不会做！什么了不起的？但又有人说：会做的人不缺乏，会想的人才珍贵呢，要不是他们的思想，怎么会有今天呢？人生怎么会知道怎样才有意义呢？想一想，也对，能想到的人的确更少。
但是有另一种说法是这样说的：人要是活得充实，生活被各种活动充满，又怎么会那么得空，去想那么多呢？穷人忙着找碗饭吃，忙人忙都来不及了，这种东西再深奥，再有思考的价值都对他们一文不值吧。在歌颂这些东西的人，还不是吃饱了没事做，假装自己很高尚的人而已。 话说回来，诶，也有道理哦。
那到底怎么说才对？还是双方都对？或者原来大家都错？
在这里，我本身觉得无所谓对错，因为很多东西，都是看你要怎样去看，怎样去下结论。
每一个人都是不同的个体，都有不同的想法。有人不喜欢想，或者想的都是自己现在应该做什么，活在自己的当下，天天都过得很自在，这是一种生活方式。这种人，从充实中找到幸福。另一种人这是对于世间的道理都想知道，会去探讨的人。这一种人则因为知道而觉得自己的生活有意义，不象无头苍蝇般乱冲乱撞。这也是一种生活方式，因为人类毕竟是懂得思考才和其他生物有差别。
对我而言，我们必须在想和做里面寻找一个平衡点。要把人生意义发挥到最佳，这一点是必要的。我们不应该老是做，一点道理都不了解，但更不该光想不做，如同废人。
就用路来打个比方，脑想而脚不动，永远走不出一条路；单走而脑不动，搞不好会失足。
脑动而脚动，人生道路才会走得有意义又实在！
Wednesday, 15 June 2011
朋友，你迷惑了么？
时间总是让人觉得很迷惑，让人盼望的时光，总是来得那么慢，希望永远不会到来的时光，却一刹那就在眼前。美好的时光走的那么快，但困苦的时光却过得那么慢。
但是时光最让我觉得奇妙的东西，就是时间很容易让人迷惑。
一个小小的错误念头，看起来没什么，但是在时间的抚育下，足于毁了你的一生。
我今天在车店做工时，突然遇见我的两位小学同学。一个已经不认得我了，另一个总算跟我笑了笑。但是，我的心情突然间变了。我没想到他们竟然会变得那么多！
那一个认不出我的朋友以前生性害羞，个性内向，一向来尊重长辈，成绩虽然不是很好，但一向来人人喜欢。更何况，以前他总是被人欺负的。今天的他，一手拿着香烟，一边问我是否有什么便宜的车要买，他要自己拿去改造！我们这十九岁的年龄，要改造车来做什么？而且他是要装上大播音器，跟一班不做正当事的朋友去炫耀。我亲爱的朋友，你迷惑了么？
谁知道，真正让我吃惊的还在后头呢！回到家里问一问妈妈，才猝然知道，原来他在中学的时候早已加入私会党，跟他们一起做恶为乐。他的父亲是做大生意的，他大了一些后就开始让他帮忙打理一些。岂知 他竟然开始偷父亲的钱！一宗生意偷一些，偷到最后，变成习惯了。现在不止目无尊长，而且还越来越坏！
仔细一想，他从小被人欺负，他母亲是二奶，在家庭里也是别人欺负的对象，自然会特别讨厌被人欺负。结果在中学时看到了那些流氓学生，人见人怕，从来没人敢去找他们麻烦。一时之间脑里定下了一个概念：只有这样才不会被人欺负！当时一个不起眼的小念头，不知不觉中，开始影响他生活里的小决定，最后到了大决定。这位朋友，在时间缓慢的流动下，慢慢的变了，变呀变的，开始迷失了自己。但是，在时间的迷惑下，却没发现，自己已经从一个好好的人，变成一个大家都陌生的恶魔了！
想到这里，我的心真跳的好快！自己当初要是有了一个那么简单的错误念头，是不是也会在时间的迷惑下，变成像他一样！
在这里，只能以这个个人经历来警告大家：不要小看一个小小的错误念头！要是来不及在时间的迷惑中醒过来，总是觉得一切都还没什么时，不知不觉自己会往错误的道路走去，张开眼时，可能一切已太迟了！千万慎之！
朋友，你迷惑了么？
但是时光最让我觉得奇妙的东西，就是时间很容易让人迷惑。
一个小小的错误念头，看起来没什么，但是在时间的抚育下，足于毁了你的一生。
我今天在车店做工时，突然遇见我的两位小学同学。一个已经不认得我了，另一个总算跟我笑了笑。但是，我的心情突然间变了。我没想到他们竟然会变得那么多！
那一个认不出我的朋友以前生性害羞，个性内向，一向来尊重长辈，成绩虽然不是很好，但一向来人人喜欢。更何况，以前他总是被人欺负的。今天的他，一手拿着香烟，一边问我是否有什么便宜的车要买，他要自己拿去改造！我们这十九岁的年龄，要改造车来做什么？而且他是要装上大播音器，跟一班不做正当事的朋友去炫耀。我亲爱的朋友，你迷惑了么？
谁知道，真正让我吃惊的还在后头呢！回到家里问一问妈妈，才猝然知道，原来他在中学的时候早已加入私会党，跟他们一起做恶为乐。他的父亲是做大生意的，他大了一些后就开始让他帮忙打理一些。岂知 他竟然开始偷父亲的钱！一宗生意偷一些，偷到最后，变成习惯了。现在不止目无尊长，而且还越来越坏！
仔细一想，他从小被人欺负，他母亲是二奶，在家庭里也是别人欺负的对象，自然会特别讨厌被人欺负。结果在中学时看到了那些流氓学生，人见人怕，从来没人敢去找他们麻烦。一时之间脑里定下了一个概念：只有这样才不会被人欺负！当时一个不起眼的小念头，不知不觉中，开始影响他生活里的小决定，最后到了大决定。这位朋友，在时间缓慢的流动下，慢慢的变了，变呀变的，开始迷失了自己。但是，在时间的迷惑下，却没发现，自己已经从一个好好的人，变成一个大家都陌生的恶魔了！
想到这里，我的心真跳的好快！自己当初要是有了一个那么简单的错误念头，是不是也会在时间的迷惑下，变成像他一样！
在这里，只能以这个个人经历来警告大家：不要小看一个小小的错误念头！要是来不及在时间的迷惑中醒过来，总是觉得一切都还没什么时，不知不觉自己会往错误的道路走去，张开眼时，可能一切已太迟了！千万慎之！
朋友，你迷惑了么？
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